[TylerGCA]

There is this girl ive been friends with for a pretty long time now. she is very very nice, pretty and a great person. Im kinda starting to like her....alot. I kinda want to ask her out but i dont want to if it would(maybe) ruin what ive got. Ive never had a problem asking any girl out until now. how would i keep this from going south. like ive thought what if i just go with the flow and whatever happens, happens but i dont know.

any advice?

[adamkaboom]

Well... here's a few questions to think about:

Why do you want to date her?
What is the difference between "dating" and just being "friends"?
Is it more than a title? What changes?
Would dating her benefit you in any way other than just to say you have a girlfriend?
How old are both of you?

If you're really not sure about what to do, there is nothing wrong with waiting a bit and kinda flesh things out. I've had a few experiences where I really wanted to ask a girl out because I liked her and thought they were so incredible... but when I asked myself those questions and then began to pay closer attention to who they really were and looked past the qualities I was stuck on, I realized that asking them out would have been a huge mistake.

[TylerGCA]

Originally Posted by adamkaboom

Well... here's a few questions to think about:

Why do you want to date her?
What is the difference between "dating" and just being "friends"?
Is it more than a title? What changes?
Would dating her benefit you in any way other than just to say you have a girlfriend?
How old are both of you?

If you're really not sure about what to do, there is nothing wrong with waiting a bit and kinda flesh things out. I've had a few experiences where I really wanted to ask a girl out because I liked her and thought they were so incredible... but when I asked myself those questions and then began to pay closer attention to who they really were and looked past the qualities I was stuck on, I realized that asking them out would have been a huge mistake.

we are both 16

Alot of things would change if i asked her out i think and im really asking more along the lines of how to ask her out. the situation seems really fragile especially to me.

[adamkaboom]

Originally Posted by TylerGCA

we are both 16

Alot of things would change if i asked her out i think and im really asking more along the lines of how to ask her out. the situation seems really fragile especially to me.

What type of things would change? If the only thing that comes to mind is the physical aspect of the relationship then I'd have to say that it would be a mistake for both of you... I'm not saying that's what you're thinking about, but just for something to consider. You also need to ask yourself, especially since you think that this is fragile... is she more important to you as a friend than a girlfriend? Meaning, are you willing to lose the friendship if that's what happens?

As far as asking her out... just ask her. Find a place that you are both comfortable in... a public place would probably be best. Short of taking a deep breath and just asking her there's not much else you can do to make it easier.

[TylerGCA]

Originally Posted by adamkaboom

What type of things would change? If the only thing that comes to mind is the physical aspect of the relationship then I'd have to say that it would be a mistake for both of you... I'm not saying that's what you're thinking about, but just for something to consider. You also need to ask yourself, especially since you think that this is fragile... is she more important to you as a friend than a girlfriend? Meaning, are you willing to lose the friendship if that's what happens?

As far as asking her out... just ask her. Find a place that you are both comfortable in... a public place would probably be best. Short of taking a deep breath and just asking her there's not much else you can do to make it easier.

lol no it has nothing to do with anything physical.

but yea im just going to ask her. im pretty sure she will say yes and even if she says no....i think she would forgive me.

[sweet345]

well good luck hope she says yes