[A.B.]

I see what you are saying, but that's against my personality type and not how I think...

I have always been like this, I take things like this too seriously...

[ApparentlyNothing]

Originally Posted by A.B.

I see what you are saying, but that's against my personality type and not how I think...

I have always been like this, I take things like this too seriously...

Believe me, I was the same way. I'm giving you advice based on my own experience. There's nothing stopping you from controlling your thoughts. Like I said, take it or leave it. But don't try and say you're helpless.

[taykey]

Originally Posted by A.B.

Okay... so I've just turned 18... and until about a year ago had not had a serious thought about a relationship with a girl. That means no girlfriend. Now, I'm praying and waiting for the one that the Lord has for me... thing is, I don't know how to take this in the first place... I'm feeling the definite pressures of not having a companion to confide in (nothing that don't need to be outside of marriage, but other stuff) and possibly getting married.
Thing is, I feel that I'm not properly suited to even start dating yet, because I have no real experience with it, and I am looking for a lifetime partnership if that's what He wills. I feel that I'm to verdant to be thinking about such things, considering I haven't even finished my education, nor am I firmly established in my planned career, (or any career for that manner).

Here's the real kicker though, I think if I wait TOO long, it'll be too late...
Short of praying, I don't know what else to do.

My mom says I should wait until I'm finished all forms of schooling to date, because it distracts you and you don't know what you really want for yourself...

[A.B.]

I've heard the same thing, but I don't know about all that. If I were to wait until I was finished with all the school I plan on doing, I'd be quite a bit old to date...

[Ordinary Sarah]

Too old to date? Even 26-27 isn't too old to date. Let me tell you... you're 18. In the next year or two, or even four or five years, you're going to change. A lot. You may find that relationships you make now aren't going to last through that. Perhaps this girl will, but you don't know that.


Also, I agree with what others have said. Being too hasty about "the one" is going to set you up for a lot of heartache, and it's going to put you in a very vulnerable spot where you are likely to make some hasty decisions that could affect the rest of your life. Be careful with that. Know that God has plans for you, and he could be leading you somewhere you can't readily see. Things may change, and probably will change rapidly in the next few years.


Not saying throw this thing out the window... if you have feelings for her, pray about it, ask God to bless your relationship and continue leading you where he will. He's brought her into your life for a reason, even when it's a very slim chance that she will be the one you marry. Just keep it open in your mind that God may have plans that you don't even know about, and by putting yourself in a box like that, and really, putting God in a box, you're going to set yourself up for a lot of regret and resentment. If you trust God and follow things through where he leads, you will prosper, and you will gain all the experience you need to date and marry within his plan for your life, on whatever timetable he has planned out for you.

[stevemister2391]

Yeah, you might have different thoughts or things you look for in a girl from age 18 to age 25.
Just keep praying and let God figure it out is the best way to go about it.