[tht00]

Alright. I'm not a mod here, but I think this needs said.

I've seen a lot of bad advice and judgmental attitudes in this forum lately.

This is, effectively, an advice forum. It isn't a chat room. It's a place for users to be able to ask questions and be able to get sound advice from fellow Christians. Dating relationships can be particularly tricky in dealing with, as those involved can be hurt quickly and deeply.


So, please -- use some discretion when you post. I frequent this forum, but I rarely actually say anything because 1) I usually don't have anything beneficial to add to threads and 2) I believe there's a lot of wisdom in simply listening, speaking if necessary.

"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak
and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that
God desires."

James 1:19,20

[Rainer.]

Thank you, Tom. I'd like to add a few things.

I would caution the general readership and posters in this forum to avoid letting threads degenerate into bickering. I don't believe this forum has quite gotten to that point, but I would like to see this as a place where we can reach out to those seeking honest help. Remember that we are trying to help our brothers and sisters here with advice from a community of believers. So when help is sought, respond in a way that can help others.

I know that relationships are a subject in which many people have very strong opinions. If you disagree with someone else, respect that they have reasons for their opinion, just as you have reasons for your own opinion. Let's make our approach Biblical and edifying. The uniqueness of a community of believers is that we can in fact gain wisdom from others who have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

Let's make this forum a place of building up, and not confusion and argument.


I will also like to add that we mods and also any of the super mods are here for you. If you have any needs, don't hesitate to send us a PM.

[bobthecockroach]

The one basic guideline I've used in this forum since I've become a mod is that every post should be aimed at helping the person who made the thread. This is an advice forum. It is not a debate forum. It is also a serious forum. There should be no inappropriate sarcasm or joking.