How to Break up With Someone?

Gods*Armygirl · 04-27-2008, 12:50 PM

Yes, I did it. I feel absolutely horrible, but I did it.

Thanks for your help guys.

JerryLove · 04-27-2008, 12:53 PM

I wish there was an easy answer.

For me, the easiest have been fast and direct. Do it when he's somewhere comfortable for him. If you do it in person, do it somewhere you would leave and he won't need a ride (his house). I probably wouldn't voulenteer details unless he asks.

"I just don't think this is the right relationship for me".

There's no good time. Personally, I'd rather be broken up with at the right time and place by phone than the wrong time and place in person (have had both).

Michael_rev · 04-27-2008, 01:36 PM

Well almost every relationship i have had i either got broken up with or i broke up with her. Here are some approaches that girls did to me that did not work.

1. One girl wrote me a letter, saying how she just wants to be friends (guys honestly dont fall for this). It wasnt so bad since i didnt have strong feelings but it just was insulting sisnce she didnt do it face to face. I beleive this society with its text messaging and cell phones is getting worse and worse with face-to-face confrontations.
2. One girl simply ignored me. I tried asking her what was wrong but she would never tell me and say everything was ok. I ended up breaking up with her because i lost interest. Ignoring the other person will just cause conflict.
3. I ended up breaking up with a girl in a very similiar situation. We were together for 1 month, and already she was way too attached. She called me constantly and i didnt feel a connection. So i thought about it long and hard and decided it wasnt going to work out. So while i was at school, i took her to the back where noone else was and i told her how i felt. I never once said it was her fault in fear she would kill herself, so i let her down gentle. She of course cried and ran from me, and cried most of the day but she got over it eventually.
4. There is this one girl i know that had a break up over a text message. They were together for 2 months and were "In Love". Needless to say She was pretty ;issed and couldnt get over it for weeks. The guy never told her why. But it wasnt the fact that he broke up with her, its how he did it that bothered her the most.

From these strories i can tell you that face to face would be the easiest approach. I know because of what technology has done to us we are becoming less social, but you have to fight it and do it. I would suggest a quiet place that you could easily leave. Maybe a park or fast food restraunt. Maybe over the phone even, but let him know you just dont feel the way he does and you think hes a great guy, but things arent going to work out. No chemistry.

Gods*Armygirl · 04-27-2008, 04:13 PM

Thanks to both of you for your advice.

**MtlMom** · 04-27-2008, 06:57 PM

Let's change the tone of this and get away from the stereotypes, okay?

To the OP: if you are worried that he might hurt himself, you might want to make sure that he has someone to support him after the fact. Perhaps you have a mutual friend who could check on him after the break up?

Michael_rev · 04-27-2008, 11:06 PM

if you dont mind me asking, has this guy had serious relationship problems in the past as far as you know? Also is you feel comfortable telling us, how old are you two?

Gods*Armygirl · 04-27-2008, 11:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Michael_rev

if you dont mind me asking, has this guy had serious relationship problems in the past as far as you know? Also is you feel comfortable telling us, how old are you two?

Not that I know of. We're teens

Michael_rev · 04-27-2008, 11:43 PM

hmmm...

well there is not much you can do but let him know how you feel. He will hopefully understand. You said you would be there for him but dont let him get confused. Tell him how it is.