[TheOneManBand]

So here's the deal. I'm gonna ask this girl to prom right and well the whole idea has almost got me sick with worry. I've dated this girl before and she is one of the most amazing people I have ever met. Well the problem is whenever i'm around her I change . Now this change isn't for the worst but the complete opposite in fact. To me this is a good thing but my friends say its a bad thing. When i'm with her I feel more compeled to be a better person, and the fact that she is strongly devoted to Christ make me feel more compeled to be a better Christian. The only problem is my friends say I change to much. They like that i'm a better person but they want me to stay the same and not change for a girl. The conundrum is that I like the change I like being a better person cause I feel it is the right thing to do. Its a tough call I want to be with her but I don't want to loose some of my close friends over one girl. Any advice would be much appreciated.

[Rainer.]

Do you feel like you are incapable of changing without her? What is inherent in her character that you need to be attached to her to change for the better that you can't do without her?

[TheOneManBand]

I don't know. I just feel like a better person when i'm with her theres not many people here that are as dedicated as her. So with her instead of some of my other friends its just easier. Like a partner in crime of sorts. She keeps me on the right path and without her I tend to follow my friends and loose my path.

[Art]

If your friends are leading you down the wrong path, then who cares if you lose them?

[H.M. Murdock]

Also, change is to be inspired out of genuine pursuit of a good thing. Not a girl.

[Nate]

Originally Posted by H.M. Murdock

Also, change is to be inspired out of genuine pursuit of a good thing. Not a girl.

What's better than girls?

[RK_lover]

Can't God use people to help us along the right path? I thought it was fairly common....

And I echo what Art said as well.

[TheOneManBand]

Its not that I have bad friends I have some friends who are hardcore Catholic and even a mormon friend. One of those Catholic friends wants to become a preist. So its not that my friends are bad they just don't like me changing for a girl. Thanks for all the help it is much appreciated.

[Iceman-bass14]

I dont really see a problem...no you shouldnt change specifically for a girl but acting different when your with her than when your with 'the guys' or different friends isnt too unusual either.And so long as its a good different i dont get why your friends are upset.

[demonhuntress]

^What Iceman says is true. Just look at that "no girls allowed" thread y'all started, for instance.

[ieatdirt]

I would say that changing in a good reason because of a girl is a good thing, and if your friends don't like it, well, too bad for them.

[tlj009]

So here's the deal. I'm gonna ask this girl to prom right and well the whole idea has almost got me sick with worry. I've dated this girl before and she is one of the most amazing people I have ever met. Well the problem is whenever i'm around her I change . Now this change isn't for the worst but the complete opposite in fact. To me this is a good thing but my friends say its a bad thing. When i'm with her I feel more compeled to be a better person, and the fact that she is strongly devoted to Christ make me feel more compeled to be a better Christian. The only problem is my friends say I change to much. They like that i'm a better person but they want me to stay the same and not change for a girl. The conundrum is that I like the change I like being a better person cause I feel it is the right thing to do. Its a tough call I want to be with her but I don't want to loose some of my close friends over one girl. Any advice would be much appreciated.

The first thing that you probably need to do is find out exactly why your friends don't like the change in you when you are with her. I doubt that they are upset because the change makes you "better". When it is described that way I would suspect they think she is a little uppity and that you get that way with her. I could be wrong about that but I do think that it is something besides you being a better person.

[H.M. Murdock]

Originally Posted by Nate

What's better than girls?

Touché.

[TheOneManBand]

That may be it. When i'm around her I don't act the same way I do with the guys. So that may be part of the problem. So I asked her to prom yesterday and she said yes so I guess I'll see how it goes. Thanks for all the help and support.

[Gods*Armygirl]

If you're changing for the better than your friends should just be happy for you. I could see a problem in it if you changed just to get you to like her. Maybe God sent her to you to help you? You never know.

Anyways, have fun at the prom and good luck.