Guys and Girls, I need your advice.

Emyv1 · 04-09-2008, 07:44 PM

Okay, there is this guy I like, I have had a crush on him for a couple years and I need to know if he likes me.
Through the long time I have known him, he has only hugged me once(he was saying goodbye). Whenever I see him he sits by me or across from me. Whenever I see him we talk for a while, sometimes we just talk by ourselves or we are with his friend( who is a guy). When we talk he does listen, he isn't staring off into space and shaking his head, he listens.
This is basically the 411. Any advice is appreciated.
Is he just being friendly or does he like me back?

segoviamuse · 04-09-2008, 07:57 PM

there really isnt enough imformation to tell. whip out some flirting and see what happens , haha

Emyv1 · 04-09-2008, 07:58 PM

Um, I guess he flirts with me sometimes. He does show a lot of body language.

segoviamuse · 04-09-2008, 08:00 PM

thats cute. is he shy?

Emyv1 · 04-09-2008, 08:10 PM

No, not really.
He is kinda confusing me, does he like me or not, I am confused about guys.

*insertname* · 04-09-2008, 08:16 PM

um, hi im a dude. i think that this is a tough one... if he looks for excuses to talk to you then he likes you. if he avoids you then no, these seem obviouse enough but you have to look to see it. cya

segoviamuse · 04-09-2008, 08:17 PM

guys confuse many girls.

and girls confuse many guys. (so ive heard)

so ive found it easier to be straight up, and confuse less people.

if he does like you, then there is something wrong that you've been friends for years and he hasnt made a move. when guys are dumb like that, they leave you no choice but to make a move. (i'm not sure what that is but if you really wanna know if he likes you, then you have to)

Emyv1 · 04-09-2008, 08:38 PM

Thanks.
He does like to talk to me and he certainly never has avoided me.

tigerfan88 · 04-09-2008, 09:23 PM

A while back, I was in your same shoes. There was a guy in my class who I wasn't sure if he liked me or not. I liked him, but I didn't want to say something if he didn't feel the same way. He gave me some hints that he did like me. These were:

* Stopping by my workplace for no apparent reason. He didn't go to any classes in my building, so it was unusual for him to be there. When I asked him what brought him over my way, he said he was picking up something for a professor, but I highly doubted that. He came over to see me.
* Talking to me a lot and walking me out of the building after classes. Basically just wanting to spend time with me whenever he could.
* Asking me if I wanted to get together and study for our class.
* Asking me twice to go to a movie. Pretty obvious sign that he liked me, right?
* Asking me if I wanted to play some billiards in a group he played with.
* Asking me out to dinner on Valentines Day.
* Sending me all sorts of Facebook applications that had something to do with dating/love.
* Finally, telling me, a month after starting this confusing thing, that he had a pretty big crush on me.

So what am I getting at? Basically that it's important to take things slow and make sure the both of you are comfortable with how things are going. I know in my case, he didn't make a move until he knew I felt the same way, and when we both knew this (after a while of flirting and talking, not to mention being friends for a while), that's when things took off. Look for signs that he likes you (like some of the stuff I mentioned above) and respond positively to any sort of flirting he does with you. That lets him know that you feel the same way, and if he knows that, he'll probably move further. If not, there's no harm done and the two of you can remain friends. If nothing else, take him aside and find out what his feelings are. Nothing is better than good communication.

Emyv1 · 04-09-2008, 09:31 PM

Thank you soooo much!
I am seeing him this Friday at a skating rink.
I actually only see him once a month, so I've got to take advantage, sense I only see him once a month.
Your advice really helps me.
And again, he does use a lot of body language and either sits across from me or next to me.

tigerfan88 · 04-09-2008, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Emyv1

Thank you soooo much!
I am seeing him this Friday at a skating rink.
I actually only see him once a month, so I've got to take advantage, sense I only see him once a month.
Your advice really helps me.
And again, he does use a lot of body language and either sits across from me or next to me.

Glad I could help.

Do you guys talk much on the phone or on instant messenger? How does he act there? Has he ever said anything that implies to you that he likes you? I know in my case, my boyfriend did a lot of his flirting via AIM (and that's because we talked a lot on there, since we didn't want to run up the cell bill) and also, like I said, in asking about spending time together (hanging out). What sort of body language does he use? Like I said, you can really tell by just observing and seeing the signs. They're probably there, unless he's the ultra-secretive type, lol.

Iceman-bass14 · 04-09-2008, 10:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Emyv1

No, not really.
He is kinda confusing me, does he like me or not, I am confused about guys.

Its ok,he may be confused by you.My advice:communication.Ive found the straightforward approach works best so just ask him.

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Originally Posted by *insertname*

um, hi im a dude. i think that this is a tough one... if he looks for excuses to talk to you then he likes you. if he avoids you then no, these seem obviouse enough but you have to look to see it. cya

Not neccisarily....he could just be nice.I mean when im at my girlfriends v-ball tournaments i'll go out of my way to strike up a conversation with her mom just to talk.Obviously i dont like her mom in that way.

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Originally Posted by segoviamuse

and girls confuse many guys. (so ive heard)

SecretAgentRat · 04-09-2008, 10:09 PM

Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it too much. It's a lot less stressful to assume he's "just a friend" unless he expresses interest.

**H.M. Murdock** · 04-09-2008, 10:52 PM

Also, for the record, consider that "guys" do not confuse any woman, just as "women" do not confuse any men. There is no way to tell you that he's doing xyz because he's a guy. Consider this on an individual level. Is he flirtatious? Does he flirt with other girls but not you?
From what you've written, it seems like he's not overly interested. Treat him as a friend. Just because he pays attention doesn't mean he's secretly in love with you. He might just be a nice guy, you know?
Savannah's onto something; treat him like a friend unless he expresses interest.

**slap_j** · 04-09-2008, 10:59 PM

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