[Katze]

Originally Posted by ApparentlyNothing

I agree with Bill.

What's wrong with the woman taking the lead sometimes? This is 2008.

I know, I know, but I was brought up in an EXTREMELY conservative homeschooling family, and it's still hard for me to justify something that my parent's have taught was wrong.

Thanks for all ya'll's advice and encouragement, and I'm going to talk to him tomorrow.

[H.M. Murdock]

What you need to consider is whether or not you believe the same. There also may need to be a distinction drawn between a man being the leader and a woman initiating communication. The two are not necessarily the same and, in fact, I would wager that it is more wrong to suppress the latter than it is to suppress the former.
A more specific consideration for this, though, is whether or not you would rather honor tradition and rely on him to communicate with you on the subject eventually, or bring up the issue yourself without leading, but while demanding clear communication when it is not guaranteed that he will pursue the same.
This is really the kind of situation that sets a precedent, dearie. It is wisest to set the precedent of clear, honest communication. Otherwise you may well leave off and let him set a precedent of confusing flirtation, which is never a good thing to rely on.

[ApparentlyNothing]

Originally Posted by Katze

I know, I know, but I was brought up in an EXTREMELY conservative homeschooling family, and it's still hard for me to justify something that my parent's have taught was wrong.

Thanks for all ya'll's advice and encouragement, and I'm going to talk to him tomorrow.

I'll be the echo and say that you need to decide for yourself what you believe about the issue, not believe because your parents told you or I or anyone else told you.

My personal opinion is that both male and female in a relationship should be equal partners, no one member dominating the other. How that plays into "roles", I've been in way to many arguments where neither are willing to budge, and don't wish to get into it again.

[Katze]

We talked today, and talked through pretty much everything. We're both crazy about eachother, but not sure if this really is what God has for us at this time. Alex knows where I'm coming from, and I've left the decision in his hands at this point, and we're both praying.

(that's the Reader's Digest version of teh story)

[tigerfan88]

That's awesome to hear! You can't go wrong with praying about it and letting him make the decision. That's what I did and it's ended up working out fine.

[Katze]

We talked for a long time today, and decided that we're going to keep it at a friendship for anow. Dating may be an option later, but neither one of us really has the time to put into a relationship now.

Story's over, thanks for your advice.