[CawKing]

Im going to look like a loser after this but o well lol...Anyway ive never liked the idea of dating a girl online and have always said i would never do it. But i meet this girl about 4 months ago we first started to chat once a week but for the last month we have been talking on the phone. Last weekend she finally convinced me to come see her. So i went and to my surprise i really liked her but i could not tell what she was thinking. I talked on the phone with her last night and she says she wants me to come back in a month. Anyway this is going to sound lame again but one of her friends asked her how the weekend went on myspace and this is what she said...Everything went pretty good.
I was a bit disappointed tho bc he's sooooo incredibly skinny, but in the long run i think i can fatten him up a bit..lol its true i am skinny and she know that before i came. It bothers me that shes not 100% into how i look is that shallow of me. Should this not bother me? Im 23 just so everyone knows

[bobthecockroach]

Ya know... it's going to take a lot more than that to figure out if you're compatible with her. Give it some time.

[BillSPrestonEsq]

Originally Posted by bobthecockroach

Ya know... it's going to take a lot more than that to figure out if you're compatible with her. Give it some time.

Agreed, also... if looks are that central to both of you... it sounds like things are still pretty darn shallow. Now if you look borderline anorexic, it could be something else, like concern. Not having ever seen you, I have no clue, I'm tossing out contingencies just in case.

That said, you really have not said anything of depth about your relationship. If everything is that shallow, (which I am not saying it is or isn't) then the relationship is not yet more than a blip on the radar. As such, I really would not be concerned.

[CawKing]

I guess your right I was just not sure if i should go that far to see her again if shes not really into things. But maybe i will just have to ask her...she does not know that i saw that post to her friend but maybe i will just tell her.

[Gods*Armygirl]

I agree with everyone else. I think that she seems to be basing things more on physical stuff. It shouldn't matter if you're skinny or not, and since that's really the only thing she mentioned, it sounds a little shallow.
Maybe she likes you, but it's up to you. Do you think you'll be able to have a serious relationship with this girl?

[tht00]

Originally Posted by Gods*Armygirl

I agree with everyone else. I think that she seems to be basing things more on physical stuff. It shouldn't matter if you're skinny or not, and since that's really the only thing she mentioned, it sounds a little shallow.
Maybe she likes you, but it's up to you. Do you think you'll be able to have a serious relationship with this girl?

I'm not sure that's really something he could answer based on meeting someone once.

Couple comments:
First impressions (physically and personality) are important, but they aren't everything. In my experience, your view of a person will change drastically as you become friends with someone and further yet as you get into a relationship.

Yeah, his situation seems 'shallow', but isn't that almost expected when you don't really know someone? You tend to focus on what you know (much of which is what you see).

[bobthecockroach]

This is what I was trying to get at. It's really early. Don't overanalyze something that wasn't even intended for your ears/eyes. Maybe she was just being silly and that's how she relates to this friend of hers. It's way too early in the relationship and this is way too small an incident to start making decisions on whether or not she's shallow and whether or not things will work out between you.

Once again, give it some time.

[Rainer.]

Don't overanalyze something that wasn't even intended for your ears/eyes.

Agreed. Too many times, we try to reach to outside sources to "read" a person, when the easiest answer is really just to ask them what's up.