Fun Stuff...

adamkaboom · 10-16-2007, 02:23 PM

Hello my fellow CGRers!!! Hope you all are doing swell!!! Anyway, I just have some questions for yall, nothing too serious so don't worry! Okay, I'll quit blabbin'...

So, I just need some ideas for my girlfriend and I to do when we're together. We're in a long distance relationship, and only get to see each other every 2-3 weeks... if we're lucky. We both live in fairly small towns and don't have access to a lot so we'll have to be creative. You see, the last couple times we were together, we really didn't do a whole lot... I think we probably made out more than anything. And well, we both thought, "Ya know, this isn't probably the best way for us to be spending our time... nor is it the best way to honor God through our relationship" So we have decided and committed to not make out anymore... and instead try to do things that can allow us to grow closer to God, and each other. You know... the love triangle?

God
|
/-\
/----\
/------\
/---------\
Her----------Me

As we both grow closer to God.....

God
|
/ \
Her---Me
/-------\
/---------\
/------------\

We grow closer to each other at the same time... see?

So mainly... what fun things we can do with friends (group stuff) so that we can be active together. And, what are some things that we can do to grow closer spiritually and focus on God in our relationship? Help me be creative... cause remember... small town... not much in the way of places to go. Thanks everyone!

Adam

**Rainer.** · 10-16-2007, 04:04 PM

What do you like to do with your other friends?

adamkaboom · 10-16-2007, 04:29 PM

Well... we would usually go to the tennis courts, play music, video games, play b-ball at the church... thats it mostly other than youth activities. But since I'm in college now we can't really go do that. And, well, most of my friends are in college too so when I go home they aren't there.

Out of what I listed she would like b-ball the best... I really don't know that I want to play with her lol... she'd take me! EDIT: But I probably would play just cause it would be fun

**H.M. Murdock** · 10-16-2007, 05:53 PM

Relationships are geometry?
Amazing.

On the spiritual end: I find that establishing Christ-centered relationships of any kind is made much easier if Christ is actually a pretty common topic of meditation with the other person.

steggz · 10-16-2007, 06:15 PM

I found it really worthwhile to actually include a time of prayer and sharing with my girlfriend of things that we'd learnt through our personal devotionals, Bible studies or in sermons. Just a little time (20 mins or so) and it was a good time to not only focus on our most common link, but also to understand a little better how we tick spiritually.

Iceman-bass14 · 10-16-2007, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by H.M. Murdock

Relationships are geometry?
Amazing.

But i hate geometry.Does that mean i hate relationships?!!?

On subject....dinner at home with a nice movie is always a cheap fun date.Even better if you know how to cook.personally my girlfriend and i played catch (baseball) in her front yard for a little bit.Honestly i also love just sitting and talking about whats going on in our lives at the moment.However if this would tempt you to make out i would caution against it.

Nate · 10-16-2007, 10:02 PM

Your graph can work both ways, however, with both of you getting closer to God as you get closer to each other. I am of the opinion that God actually wants you to get to know people as such and grow closer to people as such instead of using some forced contrivance (how's that for redundancy?) of "coming closer to God together" to create a human relationship as a mere side-effect. Oh well.

bobthecockroach · 10-17-2007, 01:00 AM

Disc golf!

acrossthesirion · 10-17-2007, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by bobthecockroach

Disc golf!

Yes.

Discs are under $10.

Most courses are free to play on.

adamkaboom · 10-17-2007, 11:35 AM

Hmm... I do like disc golf. We'll see I guess. It depends on the weather, and whether or not we want to go out to the Camp grounds 15 miles out of town. That's the closest disc golf we have

We're both outdoorsie types so, I guess we could... go on a picnic, for a walk, bike ride... sit on my front porch and sip capuchino *shrugs* If it's cold or something... what about board games, or cards or something?

bobthecockroach · 10-17-2007, 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by adamkaboom

Hmm... I do like disc golf. We'll see I guess. It depends on the weather, and whether or not we want to go out to the Camp grounds 15 miles out of town. That's the closest disc golf we have

We're both outdoorsie types so, I guess we could... go on a picnic, for a walk, bike ride... sit on my front porch and sip capuchino *shrugs* If it's cold or something... what about board games, or cards or something?

Sounds like fun.

**Skeeter** · 10-17-2007, 11:50 AM

Finding a card game that you both enjoy is fantastic. It allows for conversation, which is key. Rachael and I play cribbage fairly often.

Going for a hike is also great. Completing a hike gets you a nice sense of accomplishment and it's always nice to have a picnic at the end of the trail.

adamkaboom · 10-17-2007, 11:54 AM

what's cribbage? I don't think I've ever heard of that...well, I'm sure I have I just don't remember

**Skeeter** · 10-17-2007, 11:59 AM

Cribbage!

Pre-Ex-Girlfriend · 10-17-2007, 01:55 PM

Board and/or card games are excellent group activities as well. If you want to spend less time making out, then you'll want to spend less time alone. Or at least less time alone in private places. Also, about the whole growing closer to God thing. You are correct that if you both seek God and pray together that you will grow closer together. Just be careful you don't grow too close. The spiritual and emotional parts of us are connected, so when you grow in one area, the other will want to follow. The thing is, that could lead to a stronger desire for physical intimacy as well. The closer you two get, the more you're going to want to make out. I know you already know that, but I just want to say "be careful." Be careful.