Good News.

SccHarpGirl · 09-24-2007, 01:43 PM

Hey kiddo -

Do you want to be with this girl, or do you want to be in a relationship?

I don't know how old you are but I'm going to guess you're in high school? I think it's normal to want to have a special someone, and it's tough sometimes not to jump immediately from "She seems nice and we have things in common" to "let's date!" In the long run, however, it's easier to be in a relationship with a good friend because then when the initial romantic "rush" fades you still have a lot in common to draw from. You've got a lot of time and it sounds like, from your previous threads, that there are several girls you know who you are interested in on some level - focus on building friendships with all of them: it's always good to know a wide variety of people! Focus on building meaningful relationships before diving into the romantic. Echoing what others have said it's very neat to meet someone who have things in common with, who you "connect" with, but get to know her better before moving from friends to "boyfriend/girlfriend".

At least, if she's in your class, that should give you lots of opportunities to hang out and lots of subject matter to talk about.

JerRocks2day · 09-24-2007, 02:14 PM

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At least, if she's in your class, that should give you lots of opportunities to hang out and lots of subject matter to talk about.

You have a point. I'm trying to see if she can come over to this Wednesdays' "Meet you at the pole" event. She said that she'll see if she can check it out.

**H.M. Murdock** · 09-24-2007, 11:25 PM

Girlfriends are people too. I mean. After all, they are girl friends.

conceived in fire · 09-25-2007, 02:51 AM

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Originally Posted by DaGeek

What he means is, don't jump the gun. Being relationship-happy is a recipe for disaster, especially when you've barely met the person. You have to get to know someone before deciding if you want a real relationship, and starting as friends first is the best way

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I agree 100%. I know this from experience - get to know if you really like this person before considering a romantic relationship.

I jumped into a relationship with a girl I didn't really know. When it was going on, I was blinded to my real thoughts about her - when we broke up, I realized I was really more attracted to having a girlfriend than the girl. I didn't even really want to be more than casual acquaintances with her even....

spyrotheleo · 09-25-2007, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by conceived in fire

I agree 100%. I know this from experience - get to know if you really like this person before considering a romantic relationship.

I jumped into a relationship with a girl I didn't really know. When it was going on, I was blinded to my real thoughts about her - when we broke up, I realized I was really more attracted to having a girlfriend than the girl. I didn't even really want to be more than casual acquaintances with her even....

I see this all the time in high school relationships!

wjarmusch · 09-25-2007, 09:52 AM

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Originally Posted by H.M. Murdock

Girlfriends are people too.

I think this been pretty well covered, but I just wanted to point out this statement. I think it's something a lot of people miss. Your girlfriend, or eventually wife is a real person. You've got to think of them as a person before a relationship. They should be a FRIEND before a 'girlfriend'.

That fits what conceived in fire said...it's very easy to get blinded by feelings of 'being in a relationship' and not realize what the person is really like.