What do I do?

Go4God_Man · 09-18-2007, 04:22 PM

OK here it goes,

Theres this girl in a couple of my classes at school and I like her quite a bit. Basically is a kinda secret crush thigy. Any way I like her quite a bit but I dont know if she likes me. I mean I have absolutly nnnnnooooo idea. zip, zero, zilch, nothing, nada, nobre. How do I let her know that I like her without persay "asking her out." I also dont want to use some ultra-corney pickup line. Im also more of a stick to myself/shy/nervous kinda guy. And this girl is sorta like that shes shy and dosent say much really but she has a great personality. Im looking for something kinda suttle. FYI: I get nerveous pretty easy too if it makes any difference. Im getting mixed signals part of me wants to tell her but the other part tells me "no youll just embarras yourself." What do I do?????

PS I know, Im not a good speller sorry

Gods*Armygirl · 09-18-2007, 04:35 PM

Um you can pm me if you want. I'm pretty good at helping with that kind of thing (and I'm also a girl)

I don't have time to write a reply, but like I said, feel free to pm.

Dr. Worm · 09-18-2007, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Go4God_Man

OK here it goes,

Theres this girl in a couple of my classes at school and I like her quite a bit. Basically is a kinda secret crush thigy. Any way I like her quite a bit but I dont know if she likes me. I mean I have absolutly nnnnnooooo idea. zip, zero, zilch, nothing, nada, nobre. How do I let her know that I like her without persay "asking her out." I also dont want to use some ultra-corney pickup line. Im also more of a stick to myself/shy/nervous kinda guy. And this girl is sorta like that shes shy and dosent say much really but she has a great personality. Im looking for something kinda suttle. FYI: I get nerveous pretty easy too if it makes any difference. Im getting mixed signals part of me wants to tell her but the other part tells me "no youll just embarras yourself." What do I do?????

PS I know, Im not a good speller sorry

If you don't want to ask her out, why would you want to let her know you like her? Or find out if she likes you? What are you hoping to gain by doing this? If you're not going to ask her out, telling her you like her and leaving it at that is probably going to make for a rather awkward situation - for both of you.

Go4God_Man · 09-18-2007, 06:28 PM

Yea I guess I see where ur going. But if i would ask her out hypothetically speaking, What would I say? I mean Ive never asked someone out before. Ive always heard "oh, so and so askes so and so out today," but I would have no clue where to start. u get what im saying I think

worldrocker77 · 09-18-2007, 10:29 PM

Well get to know her first. It sounds like you don't know much about her and I don't think it would be that great if you just walked up to her and asked her out. Find out what she likes to do, what kind of person she is, etc. You'll never get to know someone unless you talk to them.

bobthecockroach · 09-19-2007, 08:09 AM

Start simple... "Hey, you wanna hang out sometime?" or "Hey, you wanna have lunch together?" Once you've actually spent some time hanging out with her, it won't be too awkward to say, "Hey, you wanna go to a movie sometime?" or something else like that. And from there it won't be too hard to say, "Hey, you wanna be my girlfriend?" and from there it won't be too hard to say, "Hey, wanna elope?" but now I'm getting ahead.

Go4God_Man · 09-19-2007, 02:22 PM

Thats souds good except the last one. Its funny though hahaha

**H.M. Murdock** · 09-19-2007, 02:30 PM

Do you... know this girl? As in, have you talked to her outside of the class(es), or about things not related to the class(es)?

Because if you don't even really know her, you might as well just see if she wants to grab some lunch after class (if it's the right time of day, of course; don't ask her to lunch if it's 9 in the morning, see if she wants coffee instead). Then talk to her.
I am surprised that girls don't express some measure of annoyance about how guys will just ask them out because they have a crush, instead of having some better reason (like, "I know you really well and I still would like to go out with you."). And vice versa.
It just seems reckless to get yourself set up for disappointment when, in fact, it might not even be that big of a loss if she turns you down.

madd beast yo · 10-28-2007, 07:31 PM

1 think i dont think u guys understand..is go4god man is only a kid..doesnt hav a car..and would never ask someone to have cofee with him haha =)

wat does nobre mean? cuz if its spanish..i still dont know wat it means... =]

i mean u said nobre in the original post....

Unique · 10-28-2007, 09:02 PM

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Originally Posted by madd beast yo

1 think i dont think u guys understand..is go4god man is only a kid..doesnt hav a car..and would never ask someone to have cofee with him haha =)

funny you'd mention that, seeing that his thread and this one here that you started seem almost identical to me

Iceman-bass14 · 10-29-2007, 06:02 AM

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Originally Posted by madd beast yo

1 think i dont think u guys understand..is go4god man is only a kid..doesnt hav a car..and would never ask someone to have cofee with him haha =)

First off double posting let alone triple posting is normally frowned upon outside of CPF.Second whats so hard about having lunch with her after class?Most places have some sort of cafeteria.

rock_show_host · 10-29-2007, 06:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Go4God_Man

Yea I guess I see where ur going. But if i would ask her out hypothetically speaking, What would I say? I mean Ive never asked someone out before. Ive always heard "oh, so and so askes so and so out today," but I would have no clue where to start. u get what im saying I think

My friend gave me some really good advice on this when I was about to ask out my girlfriend; I was also worried about saying something childish like "Wanna go out with me?" or "Will you be my girlfriend?" If you want to go somewhere with her, say to a restaurant, say something along the lines of "Are you free Saturday night? Cause I was wondering if I could take you out to dinner." Phrasing it like that and asking if you can "take her out" is a pretty reliable indicator that you're talking about a date, and it's a nice sort of gentlemanly way to say it.

tht00 · 10-29-2007, 07:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Iceman-bass14

First off double posting let alone triple posting is normally frowned upon outside of CPF.Second whats so hard about having lunch with her after class?Most places have some sort of cafeteria.

That isn't 'double posting'. Double/triple posting is creating multiple threads on the same topic in different areas.

Besides, this is an old thread (active back in mid-September).

Tmurrin · 10-29-2007, 11:40 AM

have ya prayed about it?? i mean that might sound cheasy but it helped me to see alot clearer. Also how much do you talk to her? i mean you cant really ask her out if you dont talk which im sorta getting that impression. but i probably wrong so let me know if you wanna pm me go right ahead

madd beast yo · 10-29-2007, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Unique

funny you'd mention that, seeing that his thread and this one here that you started seem almost identical to me

haha yea, cuz go4god_man is my buddy. We've been friends for years, and hav the same problems..dont kno how but it always turns out that way. everyday we talk about wat happened..and it seems like the same happened to both of us (i moved about a year and a half ago) except he always seems luckier than me =(