[davidj19]

Not sure where to start with this but, maybe its just a place to vent, maybe someone can give me advice. I feel lonely a lot of the time because I don't have a girlfriend, I have lots of friends but I dont feel its the same and Im finding it hard to find a girlfriend. I realize it will happen when God wants it to, but I feel maybe because I can be shy when it comes to asking girls out it might be impeeding from Gods plan from happening. I feel that I'm a very friendly guy, I like to be a gentlemen and girls seem to find me funny. I know these are just a few things but I don't understand why It's so hard to find a girlfriend. I liked this girl in high school she went to my church, and she would always like to hang out if I invited her but she never called me, I asked my mom and she said that this girl was shy around boys so thats why she never think to call. So I never thought it was a good idea to ask her out since she never called(she seems fine to instant message me but probably because its really infromal). Anyway I just started my second year of univervisty and I met some girls last year and there is one that I really like and she calls me and we hang out together and in large groups too. So I don't know what to do, since we hang out in a large group it might be weird if I ask her out and she says no and the others find out, also I think she might like one of the other guys in the group. I guess i'm really confused and not sure what to do, so any advice or prayer support would be greatly appreciated.

[Iceman-bass14]

Originally Posted by davidj19

Not sure where to start with this but, maybe its just a place to vent, maybe someone can give me advice. I feel lonely a lot of the time because I don't have a girlfriend, I have lots of friends but I dont feel its the same and Im finding it hard to find a girlfriend. I realize it will happen when God wants it to, but I feel maybe because I can be shy when it comes to asking girls out it might be impeeding from Gods plan from happening.

You say you believe it'll happen according to Gods timing but you state otherwise.Someday a girl will like you for who you are and the little things wont matter like being shy etc.

I feel that I'm a very friendly guy, I like to be a gentlemen and girls seem to find me funny. I know these are just a few things but I don't understand why It's so hard to find a girlfriend. I liked this girl in high school she went to my church, and she would always like to hang out if I invited her but she never called me, I asked my mom and she said that this girl was shy around boys so thats why she never think to call. So I never thought it was a good idea to ask her out since she never called(she seems fine to instant message me but probably because its really infromal).

Just for the record normally the guy is the first one to call...

Anyway I just started my second year of univervisty and I met some girls last year and there is one that I really like and she calls me and we hang out together and in large groups too. So I don't know what to do, since we hang out in a large group it might be weird if I ask her out and she says no and the others find out, also I think she might like one of the other guys in the group. I guess i'm really confused and not sure what to do, so any advice or prayer support would be greatly appreciated.

No pain no gain man.If you like her and want to get to know her let her know.And if you get to know her and find out you really like her ask her out.

[Rainer.]

So, what I've gathered is that you're in a position that is completely normal. First thing to remember is that so many guys and girls are in your exact position; that is, single and not liking it. It's something of a disease of the young and restless. It's entirely normal to be attracted to girls, and want something of a meaningful relationship with one without having one.

Next point is that you are not "impeding God's will" by being shy. You're not. When God leads you to finally have a girlfriend, it really should be because you have actively sought out a girl in a careful, prayerful manner. Being cautious is good, as far as I'm concerned. But indeed, you, as a man, have to be the one to seek these social situations and be the "pursuer".

Being timid is what all guys go though. You might get through it, you might not, but it's not really a part of finding a girlfriend, I don't think. It'll happen, you aren't a hopeless case or anything. Just give it time and prayer.