[headbanger13]

So me and this girl have been together for a little over 5 months.
I'm not allowed to have a girlfriend, so my parents don't know.
She just told me that she won't stay with me unless I tell them.

Any suggestions on how to bring it up?

[ibanez_dude]

honestly, she's 100% right. If your parents' rule is no, that is it. 15 is not old enough to have a bf/gf relationship without parental approval. Even as someone who is old enough to do so (I'm 19), I would still let them know, though I wouldn't ask their permission.

[Crandell]

I agree. Proverbs talks about not forsaking the law of your parents.

In my opinion you have two choices:
1. Take the heat from your parents
2. Lose the girl and take the heat from your parents
(thats right. you should tell them no matter what)

After all, the main purpose of dating is for finding a wife/husband, and at the age of 15... well lets just say if you have no intention of marrying this girl you are basicly dating another guys wife.

[Pre-Ex-Girlfriend]

How to bring it up? How about, "Hey, mom and dad, I've got something to tell you"?

Of course, it might be best to tell them when you are alone and will have time to discuss it with them. The sooner the better though.

[wjarmusch]

Originally Posted by ibanez_dude

honestly, she's 100% right. If your parents' rule is no, that is it. 15 is not old enough to have a bf/gf relationship without parental approval. Even as someone who is old enough to do so (I'm 19), I would still let them know, though I wouldn't ask their permission.

Yes

Originally Posted by Crandell

I agree. Proverbs talks about not forsaking the law of your parents.

In my opinion you have two choices:
1. Take the heat from your parents
2. Lose the girl and take the heat from your parents
(thats right. you should tell them no matter what)

After all, the main purpose of dating is for finding a wife/husband, and at the age of 15... well lets just say if you have no intention of marrying this girl you are basicly dating another guys wife.

Absolutely right

Originally Posted by Emo_Rachael

How to bring it up? How about, "Hey, mom and dad, I've got something to tell you"?

Of course, it might be best to tell them when you are alone and will have time to discuss it with them. The sooner the better though.

And, definitely.

All in all, I really don't think you have too much of a choice. All of the above + your girlfriend are exactly right. You should tell your parents. And, NOT for the reason of trying to keep your girlfriend. "Honor your mother & father" is pretty much all we have to say. And like Rachael said, bring it up soon, and when you have time to actually discuss it.

[tigerfan88]

You're a minor and live in their house. What they say goes. Period. The Bible makes it clear that we are to honor our parents and their wishes. If they've told you that you cannot date, you must do as they say. You need to approach them now and tell them everything. Talk things through with them and see what they say. Their answer may surprise you--or it may be what you expect. But the important thing is to tell them.

[headbanger13]

They never actually said I can't date. In general, they act like I'm 10, so they really haven't even talked to me about it.

[DaGeek]

Originally Posted by headbanger13

They never actually said I can't date. In general, they act like I'm 10, so they really haven't even talked to me about it.

Why did you say you're not allowed to have a girlfriend? No one's trying to attack you, and getting defensive about it isn't going to help.

[Rainer.]

Originally Posted by headbanger13

They never actually said I can't date. In general, they act like I'm 10, so they really haven't even talked to me about it.

While they might've not talked to you about it... neither have you talked to them about it. And seeing as you have something that you're hiding from them, perhaps it's a good time to make those conversations happen.

[headbanger13]

Originally Posted by DaGeek

Why did you say you're not allowed to have a girlfriend? No one's trying to attack you, and getting defensive about it isn't going to help.

I'm not getting defensive.

It's implied. My mom had me read "I Kissed Dating Goodbye".

[Pre-Ex-Girlfriend]

You should probably still tell them. If there's one thing I learned from dating, it's that it's much easier to do with your family's blessing.

[headbanger13]

I'm going to. My question was how.

[Iceman-bass14]

Originally Posted by headbanger13

So me and this girl have been together for a little over 5 months.
I'm not allowed to have a girlfriend, so my parents don't know.
She just told me that she won't stay with me unless I tell them.

Any suggestions on how to bring it up?

Originally Posted by headbanger13

I'm not getting defensive.

It's implied. My mom had me read "I Kissed Dating Goodbye".

Theres a big difference.If they havent ever told you "You cant date" then you shouldnt say your not allowed to have a girlfried.And for the record the book is a good idea to read.Idk if youve read it but it sounds like you havent....the book isnt so much about not dating but advice on dating.And its offers good advice it really does.I suggest you read it if you havent.

[Iceman-bass14]

Oh and its a good idea to tell your parents anyways.Your girl friends so right.

[Rainer.]

Originally Posted by headbanger13

I'm going to. My question was how.

You just do it.

"Mom/Dad..."