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Originally Posted by Aiken I do sing a lot. I sing every other week at our contemporary mass. I sing lead. I solo quite often. It's not fear any more. I know I'm not going to die when I get up there. It's more of a feeling of inadequacy. I work through it, but it's still there. I think it's just the lack of continuing positive feedback. I got a lot at the beginning that got me over the fear. I don't know if there is enough praise to fill the void of my insecurities. |
You won't get that constant praise man, sorry. Get a very loving girlfriend...or a dog. Other than that people will say nice things at first to make you feel comfortable (or just to start conversation) and they taper off as people get more familiar with you. It has nothing to do with your skill level, just the way people are.
You don't need to let your vocal ability be dependend on what people think (or say) about you. If you are not confident in yourself (no matter what people say) your vocals will lack and people will notice. If you are confident, people will notice that as well. But you can't expect people to constantly compliment you.
Case in point: I've been the worship leader at my new church for about 8 months now. I still get a lot of positive feedback but it definately has rolled off since the first few weeks. The feedback that I do get? Well, it doesn't depend on me at all. It's just old people being nice. On my crappiest Sundays I get the same response as on my best. People are finnicky.
-shane