True love

cngp90 · 06-12-2007, 09:24 AM

To those of you who are married:

How long did you know the one to whom you are now married before you realized you loved the person?
and
How did you know you loved the person?

Andrew · 06-12-2007, 09:43 AM

About six to eight months.

I knew I loved her because I had spent a lot of time with her, and I decided that no matter what happened, I would stick with her and support her. And I had a completely sacrificial, factual love for her. Well, not completely, as I am still human, but we all know what I mean...

Also, I am not married until October the sixth.

Nate · 06-12-2007, 10:03 AM

I knew it when I found that I literally couldn't imagine what life would be like without her.

To get to that point? Probably about two years. To where I thought I loved her? A week.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 06-12-2007, 08:32 PM

To where I knew I loved her? about 5 months. We were drilling for a national competition roughly 4 hrs a day, 5 days a week, so we got to know each other well. I really knew it when I realized I would settle down for her.

When I knew I wanted to marry her took more time to be honest. We had a rough go at the eginning and I was a bit of an idiot and she was young...

I knew her about 18 months when I knew we would someday get married. 4 years after that we got married.

Honestly, I can't say enough about getting to know your signifigant other as a friend first and foremost. It makes married life so much more pleasant.

cngp90 · 06-12-2007, 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

To where I knew I loved her? about 5 months. We were drilling for a national competition roughly 4 hrs a day, 5 days a week, so we got to know each other well. I really knew it when I realized I would settle down for her.

When I knew I wanted to marry her took more time to be honest. We had a rough go at the eginning and I was a bit of an idiot and she was young...

I knew her about 18 months when I knew we would someday get married. 4 years later we got married.

Honestly, I can't say enough about getting to know your signifigant other as a friend first and foremost. It makes married life so much more pleasant.

That's really cool. How old were you both when you first met?

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 06-12-2007, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by cngp90

That's really cool. How old were you both when you first met?

she was 16 and I was 18 really when we actually met. a few months earlier we sort of met...

Kati · 06-13-2007, 06:17 AM

Those are interesting questions...

We'd been close for a while, so I loved him dearly as a friend for a long time before anything romantic started (though his entire family was evidently convinced we'd get married the first time they met me--I'm always the last to know these things). I couldn't say exactly when we started to have romantic feelings for each other, but when we started dating we already knew we'd get married in the future. I guess it took us a couple of years to get to the point where we knew we loved each other and wanted to be together for the rest of our lives.

I knew I loved him because I'd made a decision to love him. I knew I wanted to marry him when I started looking seriously at my future and couldn't for the life of me see an option without him in it.

danalyn · 06-14-2007, 11:58 AM

Chris & I knew each other just a little over 2 years before we got married. Knew each other for 4 months when we started dating. Dated almost a year and engaged just over a year.

From when we first met I guess it was 5-6 months before I knew I loved him and wanted to marry him.

Pre-Ex-Girlfriend · 06-14-2007, 02:26 PM

There were exactly 5 months in between when Daniel and I started going out and when he first said "I love you." (However, we knew each other for several years before we started dating.) We had been apart for the summer and the whole time I kept thinking about how much I enjoy being with him. It doesn't matter what we are doing - even if it is something that I would normally deem dull and boring - everything is better when he's around. I had the word "love" in mind, but wasn't sure if I should use it. I wanted him to say it first. The first day we were back together after being apart for three months, he told me he thought he loved me and I said I felt the same way. Now we are engaged. Whee!

cngp90 · 06-14-2007, 06:08 PM

Thanks guys. those are helpful.

One more question: When do you think 'infatuation' turned to 'love' (if infatuation was ever even there)?

And anything else is helpful. I know theres more of yall out there that aready jumped the broom.

(or are seriously planning on it)