Back off.......

gg7 · 05-13-2007, 01:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Cruelty*free

Sorry for your inconvenience but things are not going to be going the way you have expected and for the better we should just be buddies with benefits

What exactly do you mean by that?
I've never heard that used to mean anything I'd consider positive.

Kater,
Talk with him and tell him how you feel. If you're not comfortable talking to him face to face then write him a letter at least.
What if your roles were reversed? How would you want someone to tell you to back off? Think about it.
Aren't you only 13 or 14 years old? That's way too young for a more than friends type of relationship anyways in our society. It's a bad idea.

kater · 05-13-2007, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by gg7

What exactly do you mean by that?
I've never heard that used to mean anything I'd consider positive.

Kater,
Talk with him and tell him how you feel. If you're not comfortable talking to him face to face then write him a letter at least.
What if your roles were reversed? How would you want someone to tell you to back off? Think about it.
Aren't you only 13 or 14 years old? That's way too young for a more than friends type of relationship anyways in our society. It's a bad idea.

i am actually 16 almost 17 but thats a good point that i should do what i would want some one to do to me ........i will be thinking about all of yalls ideas

Cruelty*free · 05-13-2007, 06:35 PM

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Originally Posted by gg7

What exactly do you mean by that?
I've never heard that used to mean anything I'd consider positive.

Kater,
Talk with him and tell him how you feel. If you're not comfortable talking to him face to face then write him a letter at least.
What if your roles were reversed? How would you want someone to tell you to back off? Think about it.
Aren't you only 13 or 14 years old? That's way too young for a more than friends type of relationship anyways in our society. It's a bad idea.

Undermind that statement people, that was not what I meant

kater · 05-13-2007, 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Cruelty*free

Undermind that statement people, that was not what I meant

huh?

Gwenny · 05-13-2007, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Cruelty*free

Undermine that statement people, that was not what I meant

Undermine=

to attack by indirect, secret, or underhand means; attempt to subvert by stealth

Disregard=to pay no attention to; leave out of consideration; ignore

I believe you mean disregard.

**redbaron** · 05-14-2007, 12:27 AM

Be clear in your intentions. One of the most hurtful things I ever experienced in a relationship was someone avoiding telling me the truth (aka lying) and ignoring me.

It would've been much less painful to just have it out to begin with rather than deal with everything else after they go to the trouble of avoiding you, any serious conversation, etc etc.

Honesty is not always the best feeling in the short term, but it's generally less painful in the long run.

headbanger13 · 05-14-2007, 11:13 AM

Tell him to stuff it.

kater · 05-14-2007, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by headbanger13

Tell him to stuff it.

okay....lol

Cruelty*free · 05-14-2007, 02:39 PM

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Originally Posted by luvinjesus

Undermine=

to attack by indirect, secret, or underhand means; attempt to subvert by stealth

Disregard=to pay no attention to; leave out of consideration; ignore

I believe you mean disregard.

Oh...why thank you

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 05-14-2007, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by headbanger13

Tell him to stuff it.

so be obscene... Great advice.[/sarcasm]

Really, grow up! Being obscene is not the answer.

Honest communication is the key here.

tigerfan88 · 05-14-2007, 03:17 PM

Just tell him that you don't like him in that way. Tell him it's best for you to be friends, nothing more. You shouldn't avoid him or lie to him. Honesty, though it may be difficult, is the best thing.

Cruelty*free · 05-14-2007, 03:49 PM

GO TIgers! But really that is true tigerfan

headbanger13 · 05-14-2007, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

so be obscene... Great advice.[/sarcasm]

Really, grow up! Being obscene is not the answer.

Honest communication is the key here.

Yeah, I was kidding.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 05-14-2007, 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by headbanger13

Yeah, I was kidding.

coarse jesting is forbidden by scripture...

Seriously, what you said was no better than saying, "yeah tell him f--- you!"

Even in jest this is not appropriate. Do not do it again on this site. I would prefer that you never do it again, but my authority only extends to this site.

bobthecockroach · 05-14-2007, 05:06 PM

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Originally Posted by kater

What are some nice ways to ask/show some one to back off a little? Its like they like you and you kinda liked them for a little while but then they did something/ you found things out that have turned you off and dont like him/her that way anymore whats something you can do to let them know you only want to be friends?

"Hey, I only want to be friends."

Strange, I know, but I think it just might work.