[life on fire]

I have been friends with this guy Jeff for almost a year. When we were just becoming friends he was in the middle of breaking up with his gf, renewing his life in Christ, and getting back to living for Him. Jeff is a really deep christian now and has an amazing passion for serving Christ. Throughout our friendship we have talked about dating, and we both agree it's not for us... But there is still an attraction. We hoped that maybe in the future, God would bring us closer, but we were waiting for Him. Now I'm moving two states away. Jeff recently told one of my good friends how much he truly cared about me and how my moving is causing him a lot of pain. I really want to talk to Jeff about how I feel about him, but I'm afraid it will only cause him more sadness. And I don't want to push a relationship where God has not intended for one to be. But it's really hard. I'm leaving in 5 weeks and Jeff is just now opening up about this. I feel like I should wait for him to come to me, but then I wouldn't know what to say when or if he does. I guess what i'm looking for is some advice and a lot of prayer. I've been praying constently, but I still don't feel like I have any clear answers.

~ confused and torn

[BRBob]

Have you prayed with faith for the answer? Good - now stop talking to God and listen!

Remember, hearing from God depends on your listening ability. You may be getting an answer but don't recognize it because it is not coming in the shape or size you expect it to. Take a look at your expectations, are you looking for something in the form of an audible voice, an obvious "Go this way"? Lots of people do just that because then they can somehow push the responsiblity onto God and blame Him if something goes wrong.

The Word of God says that His voice is a "still, small voice..."

Listen, shhhhhhhh......


Bob

[wjarmusch]

Originally Posted by life on fire

I have been friends with this guy Jeff for almost a year. When we were just becoming friends he was in the middle of breaking up with his gf, renewing his life in Christ, and getting back to living for Him. Jeff is a really deep christian now and has an amazing passion for serving Christ. Throughout our friendship we have talked about dating, and we both agree it's not for us... But there is still an attraction. We hoped that maybe in the future, God would bring us closer, but we were waiting for Him. Now I'm moving two states away. Jeff recently told one of my good friends how much he truly cared about me and how my moving is causing him a lot of pain. I really want to talk to Jeff about how I feel about him, but I'm afraid it will only cause him more sadness. And I don't want to push a relationship where God has not intended for one to be. But it's really hard. I'm leaving in 5 weeks and Jeff is just now opening up about this. I feel like I should wait for him to come to me, but then I wouldn't know what to say when or if he does. I guess what i'm looking for is some advice and a lot of prayer. I've been praying constently, but I still don't feel like I have any clear answers.

~ confused and torn

1st of all how old are you? I'm asking that to get to this:
Are you at the point where you can take on a serious relationship (aka moving towards marriage?).

In my opinion that would should affect your action a bit.
I had a girl who I was very close to move away this past year. I found out after she moved that she "liked" me. But, at only 16 & 17 and now 2 hours apart it would be nearly impossible to have a relationship other than friends. We still see each other a lot, and email, but it would have been even harder if we were considering "more than friends". Just something to take into consideration.

Have you prayed with faith for the answer? Good - now stop talking to God and listen!

This is very good advice. Both of you sound like Christ is your #1 priority. Like you said, if God doesn't want you together then you shouldn't be together. Take your time, and don't do anything that you'd regret.
I'll pray for you. P.M. or MSN me if you wanna talk more. I can give you a guy's prespective on this.