Is he an adulterer?

adamkaboom · 03-09-2007, 09:23 AM

This is an somewhat hypothetical question. Parts of this are true to some extent of what has happened recently, and I have embellished the rest to make this scenerio fit.

btw...I am not associated with this at all

So we have a man and a women that start dating. They have dated for a couple days and whatnot and have really hit it off. The man is floating on cloud nine because this women is the best! So he is talking to some of his friends and he tells them her name. The conversation stops... his best pal turns to him and asks his what her name was again. He tells him, not sure of why he asked. His friend looks him in the eye and says, "I work with her husband". Long story short...the man dumped her that night... and also talked to her husband about what had happened and apologized to him.

The man did not know that she was married. And as soon as he did, he ended it.

Is he still and adulterer eventhough he had no idea?

**Sean** · 03-09-2007, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by adamkaboom

Is he still and adulterer eventhough he had no idea?

First off, the technical definition of adultery is

adultery
: voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband; also : an act of adultery

So technically, neither one of them commited adultery. However, the woman would have commited maritial infidelity. She broke the moral obligations of marriage. I can't see how there would be any moral problem with what the guy did.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 03-09-2007, 01:16 PM

Using the sermon on the mount, if he looked on her to lust after her. However, her actions of dating while married pretty much indicate a form of lust of some kind.

What he did was not really wrong in that he acted in good faith and was deceived.

snizzle · 03-09-2007, 03:28 PM

How about the story of Abraham and Abimelech? When Abe lied and said Sarah was his sister, God still held abimelech accountable. Thoughts?
-shane

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 03-09-2007, 07:42 PM

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Originally Posted by snizzle

How about the story of Abraham and Abimelech? When Abe lied and said Sarah was his sister, God still held abimelech accountable. Thoughts?
-shane

Pharoah slept with Sarah, in Genesis 12. Quite bluntly, Abraham pimped his wife. Thats a far cry from having dinner and going on a harmless date and discovering they lied about their marital status. God holds him accountable for his adultery, but note the difference with Abimelech.

God doesn't hold Abimelech responsible right away, in fact God warns him of the danger. In fact, thats the very story I was thinking of.

Genesis 20:1 Now Abraham moved on from there into the region of the Negev and lived between Kadesh and Shur. For a while he stayed in Gerar, 2 and there Abraham said of his wife Sarah, "She is my sister." Then Abimelech king of Gerar sent for Sarah and took her.

3 But God came to Abimelech in a dream one night and said to him, "You are as good as dead because of the woman you have taken; she is a married woman."

4 Now Abimelech had not gone near her, so he said, "Lord, will you destroy an innocent nation? 5 Did he not say to me, 'She is my sister,' and didn't she also say, 'He is my brother'? I have done this with a clear conscience and clean hands."

6 Then God said to him in the dream, "Yes, I know you did this with a clear conscience, and so I have kept you from sinning against me. That is why I did not let you touch her. 7 Now return the man's wife, for he is a prophet, and he will pray for you and you will live. But if you do not return her, you may be sure that you and all yours will die."

See bolded part.

foolforchrist · 03-11-2007, 02:08 PM

Well, the guy has not commmited adultery, not of any sort, can't judge him to his thoughts but for what we know, he's not guilty of and adultery...
The wife, though, was on the verge of it... that's what i think...