Good ways to start convorsations with girls u like but don't know that well

LesPaulLuke · 02-24-2007, 06:44 PM

what are some good things to say when talking to a girl that u like but dont know very well??also what do most girls like in guys??

wjarmusch · 02-24-2007, 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by LesPaulLuke

what are some good things to say when talking to a girl that u like but dont know very well??also what do most girls like in guys??

I'm not sure exactly what type of conversations you're refering to. Do you mean talking them into going out on a date...or just to get to know them better.

Personally I think 'liking' someone that you don't know very well is kinda silly. So personally I try to just have regular conversations and talk about anything untill I get to know them better.

Some good conversation topics I like to use to get to know someone:
1.What kind of music do they like?
2.What do they "want to be when they grow up"?
3.What are their hobbies?
4.What do they enjoy in school?

There's a ton of stuff that you can talk about, it just depends on the situation.

As far as 'what girls like in a guy" I won't claim to have an answer on that one. It totally depends on the girl you're talking about. Maybe some of the ladies will have an answer there.

bobthecockroach · 02-24-2007, 09:47 PM

The same things you would say to a girl you don't like and don't know very well.

And... all girls are different.

Insane Drummer · 02-24-2007, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by LesPaulLuke

what are some good things to say when talking to a girl that u like but dont know very well??

Hello

Nate · 02-24-2007, 09:58 PM

"If I told you you had a hot body, would you hold it against me?"

Well... maybe not... unless you promise to video-tape the event.

adamkaboom · 02-25-2007, 08:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Nate

"If I told you you had a hot body, would you hold it against me?"

Well... maybe not... unless you promise to video-tape the event.

psshh hahahaha... that would be classic

Simple solution to problem grasshoppa'.... "Hello, my name Luke-san...let us talk"

Seriously...that simple man. Reach out on a limb and get out of your comfort zone on some things... believe me *nods*

They always say the grass is greener on the other side. But you know what? Most of the time it's because the other side waters their grass... so water yours instead!

Nomes · 02-25-2007, 08:39 PM

Get them talking about themselves. Most people like to talk about themselves because it's so easy to do even when you feel awkward: ask her about school, does she have a part-time job, does she have a car, is she learning to drive, does she play an instrument, favourite band...

There's lots you can talk about.
When I'm meeting people (in general) I get a bit of information about them like that and then I try and go right into what they did today, then that might trigger a better conversation...

**Rainer.** · 02-27-2007, 05:44 PM

Girls generally like guys who are decent people.

Just act kind and polite.

Katze · 02-27-2007, 06:54 PM

I was actually going to post my own thread on a very simliar topic.

Be kind and decent, but unless you're actually dating, remember that you're only friends.

Jenacen · 02-27-2007, 10:03 PM

I am extraordinarily bad in the art of conversation, but the school of hard knocks has taught me a thing or two.

Avoid close-ended questions like, "What's your favorite color," or "Do you like this-or-that?" Use questions that will actually go somewhere, such as "What are the things that interest you?" "What do you like to do?"

What helps me too is to relax and not think in the context of liking the person. I notice that when I like someone, I'm a bundle of nerves talking to them, but not when I don't. When the two of you are treating each other like normal friends, the conversations are a bit more fluid and the interaction is more comfortable.

Napoleon17 · 02-27-2007, 10:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Rainer.

Girls generally like guys who are decent people.

Just act kind and polite.

Um, in my experience they actually go for the jerks and losers of the world.

headbanger13 · 02-28-2007, 03:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Napoleon17

Um, in my experience they actually go for the jerks and losers of the world.

Yep. Girls always say I'm a nice guy, and they never go for me.

**Rainer.** · 02-28-2007, 09:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Napoleon17

Um, in my experience they actually go for the jerks and losers of the world.

Notice I said "like", not "go for"

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Napoleon17 · 02-28-2007, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Rainer.

Notice I said "like", not "go for"

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Fair enough. It's kinda the same thing though. People tend to go for what they like.

**Skeeter** · 02-28-2007, 11:43 PM

From what I've heard from my female friends, the reason that girls tend to end up with "jerks" is because the nice guys are too shy to actually step up to the plate and actually ask girls out. Seriously. "Jerks" tend to be a bit more forthright and confident and more willing to step out and extend the invitation to a date than the shy "nice guys." At some point, you have to grab the cliche by the horns and actually ask the girl out.

Of course, it's a good idea to get to know them a bit first; while I can't claim I've never done it, it doesn't make much sense to like a girl when you've never actually talked to her. Who knows if you'll actually get along? You have to have some sort of interaction with a girl first to see what she's like and get to know her a bit. Then, a casual invitation to a non-threatening locale is highly recommended if the two of you seem to get along reasonably well with some element of attraction.