What's too young?

headbanger13 · 02-19-2007, 04:55 PM

Ok, there's a girl at my church that I really like. She gave me her number and asked me to go to her school's valentine's day dance. My parents said I'm too young to go to the dance, or pretty much be anything more than friends with a girl. I'm 14. Am I the only one who thinks this might be a little nuts?.

passinthru · 02-19-2007, 04:58 PM

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Originally Posted by headbanger13

Ok, there's a girl at my church that I really like. She gave me her number and asked me to go to her school's valentine's day dance. My parents said I'm too young to go to the dance, or pretty much be anything more than friends with a girl. I'm 14. Am I the only one who thinks this might be a little nuts?.

Sorry, I agree with your parents. 14 is too young for anything more than friendship.

Couple questions for you to think about:
What would you see as the point to dating her or any other girl at this point in time?

Why is just being friends not good enough for you?

switchfootprson · 02-19-2007, 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by passinthru

Sorry, I agree with your parents. 14 is too young for anything more than friendship.

Couple questions for you to think about:
What would you see as the point to dating her or any other girl at this point in time?

Why is just being friends not good enough for you?

Exactly. I would wait until you are 16. Listen to that Switchfoot song "Amateur Lovers". You can have a very strong relationship, and maybe go to a movie and harmless hugs, but set your limitations.

|)rink)v(tn|)ew · 02-19-2007, 05:10 PM

I agree with your Rents too. I'm 17, and just got out of a strugly relationship with a "freind" that is a yhear younger than me, and we've been freinds all our lives (pretty much). out of all that, God just hit me witha two by four and told me, "hey, i'll bring the right girl around when i see your ready." and i just realized, (i'm also readying "I kissed dating goodbye" by joshua harris. very help-ful) I'm too young for a lasting relationship.

Hey, dude...this is my point, at 14, if you start a "closer then freinds" relationship, you will most likely NOT be marrying this person, and if your NOT gunna marry this girl, then what business do you have giving her part of your heart that should be saved for the Girl God has saved for you?....?

FRIENDS ARE SO MUCH COOLER AT 14 THEN TO TRY TO RUSH INTO RELATIONSHIPS WITH GIRLS. LOKK AT THEM AS YOUR SISTER'S IN CHRIST.

**Rainer.** · 02-19-2007, 05:14 PM

Too young is what your parents say is too young. Doesn't matter what anyone on an internet forum might say, listen to your parents, and when they give you the go ahead, then you're welcome to date.

headbanger13 · 02-19-2007, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by passinthru

Sorry, I agree with your parents. 14 is too young for anything more than friendship.

Couple questions for you to think about:
What would you see as the point to dating her or any other girl at this point in time?

Why is just being friends not good enough for you?

We weren't really going to date. She lives too far away anyway. I was more just wondering what you guys thought about the dance. I mean, its a freakin school dance

Insane Drummer · 02-19-2007, 08:18 PM

I'm 19 and havn't started dating...

By the way, ladies, PM your phone number... K?

wjarmusch · 02-19-2007, 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by headbanger13

We weren't really going to date. She lives too far away anyway. I was more just wondering what you guys thought about the dance. I mean, its a freakin school dance

Ok...that changes things a little....maybe. I agree with the others that 14 is too young for anything serious...
If you BOTH understand it's just a dance and you're just going as friends then maybe I'd consider it.

Just the whole "she gave me her # and asked me to the dance" sounds like more than a friendship to me. How long have you known her?

SilverNitrate · 02-19-2007, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by headbanger13

Ok, there's a girl at my church that I really like. She gave me her number and asked me to go to her school's valentine's day dance. My parents said I'm too young to go to the dance, or pretty much be anything more than friends with a girl. I'm 14. Am I the only one who thinks this might be a little nuts?.

I don't think your parents are nuts. I see that you're not asking about dating her... just asking about the dance.

In my opinion... dances should be left out of schools. Valentines Day dances, Homecoming dances, heck, I'd even go so far as to say Prom should be taken out of the schools. School is a place to (suposedly) learn. Guys/girls are nothing but a distraction from your studies. I don't see why it's the school's job to provide a form of "entertainment" for the students.

If it were possible to have a high school dance where emotions weren't being thrown out all over the place, then I wouldn't have a problem with the schools allowing dances. Problem is, dances (as well as high school relationships in general) awaken emotions that should lie dormant until the time is right.

That's my two cents.

bobthecockroach · 02-19-2007, 08:56 PM

Your parents get to make these decisions right now. Period.

headbanger13 · 02-19-2007, 08:59 PM

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Originally Posted by wjarmusch

Ok...that changes things a little....maybe. I agree with the others that 14 is too young for anything serious...
If you BOTH understand it's just a dance and you're just going as friends then maybe I'd consider it.

Just the whole "she gave me her # and asked me to the dance" sounds like more than a friendship to me. How long have you known her?

I've known her for about a year, but we never really talked much until a few weeks ago. She already told me she was interested in me but not anymore.

headbanger13 · 02-19-2007, 09:00 PM

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Originally Posted by SilverNitrate

I don't think your parents are nuts. I see that you're not asking about dating her... just asking about the dance.

In my opinion... dances should be left out of schools. Valentines Day dances, Homecoming dances, heck, I'd even go so far as to say Prom should be taken out of the schools. School is a place to (suposedly) learn. Guys/girls are nothing but a distraction from your studies. I don't see why it's the school's job to provide a form of "entertainment" for the students.

If it were possible to have a high school dance where emotions weren't being thrown out all over the place, then I wouldn't have a problem with the schools allowing dances. Problem is, dances (as well as high school relationships in general) awaken emotions that should lie dormant until the time is right.

That's my two cents.

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Originally Posted by bobthecockroach

Your parents get to make these decisions right now. Period.

Being 14 sucks

acrossthesirion · 02-19-2007, 09:09 PM

Believe me, you're not missing out on anything. Unless you really like rap and hip hop, and judging by your signature you don't, dances are what sucks.

SilverNitrate · 02-19-2007, 09:59 PM

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Being 14 sucks

Not if you slow down and enjoy it while it lasts.

You'll be in your 20s before you know it. Trust me. I'll be 26 this Friday, and I often times wonder where the time went.

ibanez_dude · 02-19-2007, 10:56 PM

Sorry, I have to agree with them too. 14 is too young maturity-wise, though I don't want to presume to judge you. Also too, at that age, the odds that the person you like will be the person you end up marrying are extremely low.