In a predicament

Guitaress · 01-29-2007, 03:14 PM

(that can't be spelled right)

Okay y'all, I'm in sort of a pickle(Not literally

).

See, I really like this guy(See "I don't know anymore), and have liked him for a little while...

But now, very recently, I've started to develope a small crush on this other guy. Since we all go to the same youth group and see each other on Sundays also, it might be sort of confused fer me fer awhile.

I don't know why I'm writing this...

I guess my question is, how do I deal with this? I mean, I like the one guy a lot, but I'm startin to crush on the other now, and...I'm just congused...

Any advice? Besides talk to God about it? Cause I'm doin that

Chris · 01-29-2007, 03:50 PM

I say wait. Don't pursue a relationship at this point. Your emotions and attractions are obviously muddled a bit right now and to pursue anything with either of these boys (aside from a friendship) wouldn't be fair to any of you.

Guitaress · 01-29-2007, 03:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Chris

I say wait. Don't pursue a relationship at this point. Your emotions and attractions are obviously muddled a bit right now and to pursue anything with either of these boys (aside from a friendship) wouldn't be fair to any of you.

I know, I aint, I'm just very confused about this/my feelings right now.

Chris · 01-29-2007, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Guitaress

I know, I aint, I'm just very confused about this/my feelings right now.

How old are you? It can likely be chalked up to growing up/adolescence.

Guitaress · 01-29-2007, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Chris

How old are you? It can likely be chalked up to growing up/adolescence.

I'm almost 17

One the guys is 18 and the other is 17

Nate · 01-29-2007, 04:25 PM

It's spelled right.

Guitaress · 01-29-2007, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Nate

It's spelled right.

Yay!

Guitaress · 01-29-2007, 05:24 PM

I dunno what to say

Guitaress · 01-29-2007, 05:28 PM

Who knows, maybe God lemme me crush on the one to tell me to back up on the other. Cause I liked the other so much..., you get the idea.

I dunno

**Rainer.** · 01-29-2007, 06:56 PM

I'll repeat the original advice, since I think it's good advice.

Deal with your emotions, and don't get involved with any of these guys, since you yourself aren't 100% there with your emotions.

Guitaress · 01-30-2007, 09:23 AM

See, the problem is, my emotions are getting harder and harder to deal with, and I don't even know what they are right now. It would be a bit easier if I only liked one guy, but it seems it didn't work out that way.

**Rainer.** · 01-30-2007, 05:17 PM

The key is to simply not act on them. They will pass.

Guitaress · 01-30-2007, 06:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Rainer.

The key is to simply not act on them. They will pass.

What do you mean?

jengoesup · 01-30-2007, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Guitaress

What do you mean?

If you don't let either of them know, then you are resisting acting on your feelings. Not acting on your feelings could also involve not thinking about it too much, not fantasizing about the possibilities (like having a daydream where you two are on the best date ever), and definitely not talking about it to anyone you know. A crush (which was never going to come to fruition) that I had became a much bigger deal than it ever was after I told my friend, and she got all excited and made a big deal out of the situation. And then whenever me and this person were together, my friend would cast glances in my direction and it created this new dynamic and tension between me and the person I liked (at least, tension on my end). So this thing which had previously existed in my mind as a fantasy and which I could have probably gotten over myself became real in a bad sort of way.

crazychu · 01-30-2007, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Nate

It's spelled right.