[Guitaress]

Originally Posted by jengoesup

If you don't let either of them know, then you are resisting acting on your feelings. Not acting on your feelings could also involve not thinking about it too much, not fantasizing about the possibilities (like having a daydream where you two are on the best date ever), and definitely not talking about it to anyone you know. A crush (which was never going to come to fruition) that I had became a much bigger deal than it ever was after I told my friend, and she got all excited and made a big deal out of the situation. And then whenever me and this person were together, my friend would cast glances in my direction and it created this new dynamic and tension between me and the person I liked (at least, tension on my end). So this thing which had previously existed in my mind as a fantasy and which I could have probably gotten over myself became real in a bad sort of way.

Well, see, the first guy that I liked longer, know that I like him.(See said thread mentioned earlier) That's got me in a pickle right there, cause I ain't sure it our friendship will last cause I told him.

And if y'all knew me if real life, you'd know that I can't help but think about it, er "Fantasize", as you call it. Like, here's an example, I got some advice from someone to not think about what I'm gonna say to the guy I like, just say something, to keep our friendship from sinking, but I can't not think about it, even if it's worse off thinking about it.

See, that just prooves how I am. It's just how I am, and I wish I weren't.

[Guitaress]

Okay, an update!

I feel as if God is helping me deal with my emotions, and helping me realize that the first guy may not be the one. The other guy I, I like him reallly well now, and we talk all the time! It's awesome!

I've learned a while back that the key thing to a good friendship is communicaation, and me and the other guy didn't have much of that, it's sad actually

But, God's helping me, and my emotions are not tangled anymore, and I hope they stay un-tangled.

[jengoesup]

Glad to hear it. Good luck with the second guy

[Guitaress]

Thanks