considering dating somebody.

Humility · 01-22-2007, 09:33 PM

Ok. Here's the deal. I am an 18 year old man with a few months until High school is over. I've never been in a relationship in all 18 years, which I consider a blessing because i've never been in that position to stumble into sexual sin. I was always taught that the modern concept of dating is pretty useless. you know, people go out with people...they break up and then next week they're going out with somebody else. And even as a student I've always hated that High school attitude...nonchalant, random, BS that just aggravates the heck out of me. but enough about me. There is this girl i've know for about a year, i met her at this church near my house. Her name is Lizzy. She's a drummer, which is great because Im all about music ministry. She loves the Lord, and she has a strong Heart of Worship. Which I find to be the most attractive thing about her.
I try to talk to her whenever I can, but It's not like every day because she works alot. Due to my supposed "lack of experience" in the dating realm, i dont really know what to do. I think she likes me, and many people say that I should pursue something with her. Under normal circumstances i would go after It because i've been patient, and i think it would be a healthy, God centered relationship. and im not in it for physical stuff.
Heres my problem.. I plan on going to Teen Mania's Honor Academy in texas in january of 2008. I'd be gone for a year, which actually works out alright because she'd be graduating the year i come back....but anyways. Would it be worth it to pursue this relationship even though i know im gonna be gone for a year in texas? I dont want to make a hasty decision and hurt either one of us. so what should I do?

bobthecockroach · 01-22-2007, 09:34 PM

Well, there's only one way to find out:

Communication.

MrCrabby · 01-22-2007, 09:43 PM

Personally, I would not pursue a serious relationship at this point (if only because I can NOT do long-distance), but you should make an effort to get to know her. If you two form a solid friendship and keep in touch, she will not forget about you when you leave and come back.

Humility · 01-22-2007, 09:49 PM

true

twin2006 · 01-22-2007, 10:19 PM

i personally find long distance relationships not as bad as they are made out to be... however i've only been friends long distance never tried anything different. i think with accountablility there at the honor academy (which shouldnt be hard to find), and accountablility back home for here (which plugged into church also shouldnt be hard), and a willingness to work, you should have no problem. but im biased i have wonderful long distance relationships including my best friends

leiarose · 01-23-2007, 10:54 AM

Mmm. Long-distance is hell. Be very sure.

Like Bob said - talk to her.

Ax · 01-23-2007, 02:00 PM

I'm in a semi-long distance relationship. It sucks sometimes. It sucks a lot. But some people excel in long distance relationships... All you can do is talk to her. Make sure that she knows you have a concern about carrying a long distance relationship, but also that you are willing to put effort into it (which I assume you are).

adamkaboom · 01-23-2007, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by bobthecockroach

Well, there's only one way to find out:

Communication.

Amen. Your sitch-e-ation sounds like me this last summer... take Bob's advice. Long distance relationships can be as good or as bad as you make them...talk to her.

passinthru · 01-23-2007, 11:59 PM

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Originally Posted by leiarose

Mmm. Long-distance is hell. Be very sure.

Like Bob said - talk to her.

you aren't wrong. It is hell. But I would rather go through hell and have him as my b/f then not go through hell and not have him at all.

you don't know if you don't ask. You can sit there and wonder about it until you tie your brain in knots. Or you can just ask her.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 01-24-2007, 12:14 AM

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Originally Posted by passinthru

you aren't wrong. It is hell. But I would rather go through hell and have him as my b/f then not go through hell and not have him at all.

you don't know if you don't ask. You can sit there and wonder about it until you tie your brain in knots. Or you can just ask her.

and the hell ends if all goes well. I married my long distance girlfriend of a very long time. (we were engaged roughly 3 years, dating a good long while before that)

They hurt, and I mean hurt, and take dedication, but in the end, my wife is the greatest person in the world for me.

Humility · 01-24-2007, 09:06 PM

i'll talk to her on sunday. we should be going out and doing something on sunday night.

MrCrabby · 01-24-2007, 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Humility

i'll talk to her on sunday. we should be going out and doing something on sunday night.

Well, now. Confident, are we?

Humility · 01-25-2007, 06:35 PM

i dont know where to go though...i dont wanna go to a movie, cause i dont need temptation.

bobthecockroach · 01-25-2007, 08:15 PM

Go out for ice cream!

passinthru · 01-25-2007, 08:40 PM

Go someplace where you can actually talk to her instead of just doing an activity. Walk dogs for the Humane Society. Get a coffee and dessert. Go low key and have her over and play games. If there's snow and you both like winter sports, go sledding or skating.