[JesusFrEaK0077]

I'm gunna make this as simple as it gets. Basically my mom and my brother are fighting again. (Fighting as in yelling, screaming, cussing at eachother, slamming doors, more screaming.) And every time I feel like it's my fault, just cos I'm used to having everything be my faul, that's just how my life goes. I'm just not sure about what to do anyomore. Because when they fight (which is quite often) I feel the same way over and over again. Feeling this way sucks because I have nobody to tell, my friends could care less.

[jael>rock<]

well, it sounds like you already do know that it's not your fault. it can't be your fault that they're arguing,(except through some very complicated situations). remind yourself of that fact. go into your room and tone it out with music or something. don't just sit there and listen to it.

[kater]

Originally Posted by jael>rock<

well, it sounds like you already do know that it's not your fault. it can't be your fault that they're arguing,(except through some very complicated situations). remind yourself of that fact. go into your room and tone it out with music or something. don't just sit there and listen to it.

i agree with her and the only other thing i would say is just spend some time praying about it and see if that doesnt help

[JesusFrEaK0077]

Originally Posted by jael>rock<

well, it sounds like you already do know that it's not your fault. it can't be your fault that they're arguing,(except through some very complicated situations). remind yourself of that fact. go into your room and tone it out with music or something. don't just sit there and listen to it.

I just feel like it's always my fault though. I don't sit there and listen to it and I try to play music but I can still hear it and that's when I feel like it's my fault I can't get rid of that fact. And probably sometimes it is and I don't know.

[akaukal]

Originally Posted by JesusFrEaK0077

I just feel like it's always my fault though. I don't sit there and listen to it and I try to play music but I can still hear it and that's when I feel like it's my fault I can't get rid of that fact. And probably sometimes it is and I don't know.

I recommend writing stuff down. Just how you're feeling, and stuff like that. I don't know your mom, but it might help to tell her how you feel about her and your bro always fighting. My sister and my mom have screaming matches all the time also. I write stuff down, I've told my mom that it bothers me (she doesn't listen..) and I do whatever I can to tune it out. Even if that involves getting out of the house.

[jael>rock<]

Originally Posted by JesusFrEaK0077

I just feel like it's always my fault though. I don't sit there and listen to it and I try to play music but I can still hear it and that's when I feel like it's my fault I can't get rid of that fact. And probably sometimes it is and I don't know.

i would also suggest going for walks. if you have a dog to walk, then that's a good excuse. and yes, pray, and talk to God about how you feel. i agree in writing things down. i don't write, but i do have a diary on my computer. it helps a bunch!!

[sunsurfer]

Originally Posted by JesusFrEaK0077

I just feel like it's always my fault though. I don't sit there and listen to it and I try to play music but I can still hear it and that's when I feel like it's my fault I can't get rid of that fact. And probably sometimes it is and I don't know.

Regaurdless of whether it is your fault, your mother and brother are responsible for their own actions.

I would advise you to confront your mother about this, ask her what is causing it. Don't scrape the surface, get to the root of the problem. Also, find a good time to do that. Never while they are fighting, obviously, because it is like grabbing a dog by the ears. It's a stupid action, and you'll get bit. Don't do it right after the fight either, give her time to cool down. Talk to your dad about it, and ask him to talk to your mom. She will be more likely to listen to him. Have a family meeting or get together. Maybe your mother and brother don't know enough about eachother.

Once we know the root of their problem, we can probably give you better advice.

And lastly, don't try to take this into your own hands. This is between your mom and your brother. You can't work it out for them. Nor can they do it alone. Pray about it really hard, and ask them to pray about it too. God will answer.