weirdness

joshua.lee.90 · 01-03-2007, 10:32 PM

Well heres this problem im dealing with. I am part of the worship team for my youth group and i really like this girl who is also part of the worship team. Over the summer we got to talk to each other a lot and stuff. I found out that she liked me too. Heres the problem. Lately we havent talked that often like we used to (over msn). Im asumming that she doesnt really like me anymore. I would have asked her out earlier but i thought it might be wierd cause we are part of the worship team together. But i still have feelings for her and i want to ask her out but i dont think she likes me anymore. .. I feel like a missed my chance. what should i do?

DreamChaser · 01-03-2007, 11:17 PM

Heya,

Uh... ask her out? What's the worst that could happen?

**The wirerat** · 01-04-2007, 12:09 PM

Ask her out. The worst she can do is say no and then you wouldn;t be wondering anymore

Pre-Ex-Girlfriend · 01-04-2007, 01:20 PM

You could tell her what you just told us. That you like her, thought she might like you, wanted to ask her out but thought it would have been weird because you are on the worship team together, and you still like her, so will she go out with you.

Also, I'm just curious, when you say "go out" do you mean go out on one date or do you mean become boyfriend and girlfriend, because I've heard it mean both things.

asiammyself · 01-04-2007, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Emo_Rachael

Also, I'm just curious, when you say "go out" do you mean go out on one date or do you mean become boyfriend and girlfriend, because I've heard it mean both things.

I've also been wondering about this. Do girls think "go out" mean on a date or just to hang out? As Im sure alot of people get confused about this. So the point of this post is what do you say if you wanna hang out and what do you say if you wanna go on a date and for it to be straight forward?

Sith of blades · 01-04-2007, 03:00 PM

I say just be straight forward. Ask her out. The worst she can say is no.

joshua.lee.90 · 01-04-2007, 03:25 PM

here is the thing though if she says no im ok with that but its just going to get really weird between us and i dunno maybe ill just ask her........

TheProdigalModern · 01-04-2007, 03:42 PM

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Originally Posted by joshua.lee.90

here is the thing though if she says no im ok with that but its just going to get really weird between us and i dunno maybe ill just ask her........

Dude, this will be an issue right up until your wedding day. There is always the chance of things getting "weird". The question is whether or not you feel like it's worth taking that chance.

BTW, my senior year I asked a friend of mine out. After she said no -- and retrospectively, thank God! -- the only weirdness that we experienced was about five minutes of hemming and hawing around the conversational bush the next time we saw each other. These things often work out if you're not creepy about it.

Pre-Ex-Girlfriend · 01-04-2007, 11:37 PM

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Originally Posted by asiammyself

I've also been wondering about this. Do girls think "go out" mean on a date or just to hang out? As Im sure alot of people get confused about this. So the point of this post is what do you say if you wanna hang out and what do you say if you wanna go on a date and for it to be straight forward?

If you want to hang out, say, "Do you want to hang out?"

If you want a date, say, "Will you go to dinner with me on Saturday?" If you want to be even more straightforward, then just say, "Want to go on a date on Saturday?" That's about as straightforward as I can think to say it.

After a first date (or even on a first date), I think it's a good idea to have a conversation that clears up what each of your definitons of "dating" are and how exclusive you want to be. It just makes sense to make sure you are both on the same page from the very start.

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Originally Posted by joshua.lee.90

here is the thing though if she says no im ok with that but its just going to get really weird between us and i dunno maybe ill just ask her........

It will probably be a little awkward at first either way (whether she says yes or no). It doesn't have continue to be weird, though. Like Vershal said, just don't be creepy.

Casey · 01-05-2007, 12:42 AM

ahhh... this whole "going out" thing needs to be cleared up.

I remember growing up and all the teenies (including myself - as weird as I thought it was) thought that saying "Will you go out with me" actually means "will you be my girlfriend."

I think it's inappropriate to straight up ask someone if they want to be your girlfriend. If you like someone, and would potentially like to have an exclusive romantic relationship, then plan a date and ask this person if they would like to accompany you on said date. If it goes well, continue dating. At some point you'll have the awkward conversation of if you're seeing eachother exclusively or not. Then you're b/f and g/f.

Enjoy!

burningtr33 · 01-05-2007, 12:56 AM

yea i kinda get your drift...