[Ax]

Also, I make generalizations, like Gavin said, for a first date. Everybody may be different, but it's better to play it safe on the first few dates, i'd say probably even for a while.. Don't swim too deep if you don't know the waters, eh?

[Jonular]

Originally Posted by AXguitar

Everybody may be different, but it's better to play it safe on the first few dates, i'd say probably even for a while.. Don't swim too deep if you don't know the waters, eh?

I hate hate hate this "playing" that you mention in your post. It's shallow and doesn't even offer the other person a chance to make you think. If you follow such and such rules, you might get a second date, which is a success. If you don't, you failed, and you wait until next Friday night to play the silly game with someone else.

Sounds like it doesn't lead anywhere mature and meaningful.

~Jon

[Ax]

Originally Posted by SystemOfAJon

I hate hate hate this "playing" that you mention in your post. It's shallow and doesn't even offer the other person a chance to make you think. If you follow such and such rules, you might get a second date, which is a success. If you don't, you failed, and you wait until next Friday night to play the silly game with someone else.

Sounds like it doesn't lead anywhere mature and meaningful.

~Jon

... Of all the things you could attack... Playing it safe is an expression, I'm not reducing dating to a game, I'm saying that it's best to proceed with caution.

[Jonular]

Yes, I realize it's an expression. It was something I had been thinking about all throughout the thread and once I read the last post I just replied without rereading much of anything. It's these rules that turn dating into a "game" where the entire process is completely metholodical and leaves little room for emotion. Sure, there are good ideas to follow, but when it gets reduced to following a list of do's and don'ts, (especially ones like not checking out other girls while on a date) it seems like it doesn't mean anything anymore.

~Jon

[Ax]

Originally Posted by SystemOfAJon

Yes, I realize it's an expression. It was something I had been thinking about all throughout the thread and once I read the last post I just replied without rereading much of anything. It's these rules that turn dating into a "game" where the entire process is completely metholodical and leaves little room for emotion. Sure, there are good ideas to follow, but when it gets reduced to following a list of do's and don'ts, (especially ones like not checking out other girls while on a date) it seems like it doesn't mean anything anymore.

~Jon

Some people don't realize that girls don't like for you to look at other girls while you are dating them, seriously.

[DreamChaser]

Heya,

Some people don't realize that girls don't like for you to look at other girls while you are dating them, seriously.

Not even rules can help someone if they can't figure that out using common sense. For those of us that do employ common sense and etiquette, it'd be inane to create such a rule.

[SilverNitrate]

Originally Posted by AXguitar

Also, if you have tips, please feel free to add some.

No farting.



Actually, I say that jokingly... if I was on a date and the girl farted... I'd probably ask her to marry me right then. Not that I enjoy the smell of farts or anything... it's just that I can't stand girly-girls who hope to marry a man that never farts. If she farts... I can fart. And if you take her out for Mexican food... then it's an added plus. Just be sure to drive home with the windows down.

[wjarmusch]

Originally Posted by SystemOfAJon

Yes, I realize it's an expression. It was something I had been thinking about all throughout the thread and once I read the last post I just replied without rereading much of anything. It's these rules that turn dating into a "game" where the entire process is completely metholodical and leaves little room for emotion. Sure, there are good ideas to follow, but when it gets reduced to following a list of do's and don'ts, (especially ones like not checking out other girls while on a date) it seems like it doesn't mean anything anymore.
~Jon

I'm with John here. It does seem like dating is reduced in meaning in the most part. I know there will be people who say that there can be "serious" datinng, and sure there can. But for the most part it seems to be less meaningful then ever.

[Jenacen]

With one particular friend (we weren't dating, we're just great friends), I hated it when she offered to pay! Actually, that didn't bug me as much as when she tried to hold the door open for me (I'm talking about one friend in particular). I mean, she was just trying to be nice and everything, but it feels like we're doing the other's job. My job is to make sure she has a good time, her job is to make sure that she's completely blown away by the royal treatment And I get a lot of pleasure out of being able to treat someone like that.