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kater · 11-26-2006, 04:05 PM

Its starting to get really hard for me to go to church.........(nobody ever talks to me anymore)i know this shouldnt be the reason why i am going to church but for me when no one talks to me me makes me feel like they could care less if i was there or not ...........i am a teenage girl and i am trying to keep remember i should be going to church to learn and not just to hang out with people..........but the last few weeks ive gone no youth has even talked to me but like one...........and they sit together and all talk to eachother but not to me and for one girl especialy i was trying to get the youth girls together to go to starbucks but no she couldnt go just because one of the other girls could and that made me feel real good...........and the other girl had some real reasons that were understandable........but i think i am genna start visiting some other youth groups..........just to see if there any diffrent and more serious about God then friends

**H.M. Murdock** · 11-26-2006, 04:20 PM

A huge part of being a member of a church is for the people. How else are we supposed to find an environment that provides us with a way to recharge from the world? Church congregations eat, pray, study, worship and have fun together. Without that element all the "learning" in the world is pretty much useless.

**Simo** · 11-26-2006, 04:45 PM

Kater, i know you haven't actually asked any questions but it sounds like you are after some insight into the situation and advice on how to act, because of that i'll move it to advice where you will get much better responses.

kater · 11-26-2006, 06:08 PM

yeah thanks .....if yall have any advice go ahead and give me some

Cruelty*free · 11-26-2006, 06:09 PM

You are dearly loved.

kater · 11-26-2006, 06:24 PM

thanks yall always seem to know what i need to hear

guitarman531 · 11-26-2006, 06:41 PM

Acts 2:42

Quote:

42 They devoted themselves to the apostles' teaching and to the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer.

This verse is describing the (very) early church (if I'm not mistaken), and the word fellowship here describes the friendly, "lets-have-coffee-and-donuts-after-the-sermon" kind of fellowship (again, if I'm not mistaken).

I believe that Christian fellowship is *very* important! I am *very* encouraged when I go to church, and feel welcomed by a lot of the people there.

All that to say that you shouldn't feel bad about wanting to feel welcomed and loved at church. Like H.M. Murdock said, it's supposed to be a time for us to recharge for the upcoming week (and that's not just by listening to a sermon)

kater · 11-26-2006, 06:54 PM

well i am not saying i wont go to church i am just thinking about visiting some church and see what happens from there

RawkforChrist · 11-26-2006, 06:57 PM

The message translates the verse as saying
"They commited themselves to the teaching of the apostles, the life together, the common meals, and the prayers."

I don't know what else to say
I figured that might help alittle....
I've grown up in a pretty big youth group
but we all know each other.....
maybe talk to your youth pastor
see if maybe there's a girl in your youth group that would be willing to talk to you n such.....

**H.M. Murdock** · 11-26-2006, 06:59 PM

I think that's a good plan, based on the assumption that the youth group you are currently with really doesn't want to interact with you (gotta leave room for misinterpretations, you see). Just make sure that you settle into a good youth group- not just a youth group that makes you feel good.

kater · 11-26-2006, 07:21 PM

well i dont want to make people talk to me just because they were told to or have to i would rather just have them talk to me cause they want too like they used to do

kater · 11-26-2006, 07:26 PM

and i think my youth pastor (also our pastor) already kinda knows.....or i am pretty sure he knows something isnt right

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 11-26-2006, 07:28 PM

I know what its like to be the person who has to say no to going out to starbucks and such. Perhaps what I say will not apply, but when I was in college a lot of people would ask me out to places and activities that cost money. I was living on roughly $8000 a year including $8500 in tuition. (I managed to do it without debt and eat. How, I am not quite sure.) As such, I had to turn down invitations till people thought I was quite unfriendly. truth is, I was just broke.

A man that hath friends must show himself friendly or so say the Proverbs. So if you are not being the initiator, you can't fault the youth group.

Keeping this in mind though, in some youth groups, you are just not going to be welcome. I remember two in particular where I was made extremely unwelcome even though I tried ridiculously hard to make friends. However, until you have exhausted your reserves of frindship making ability it would be unwise to move on. The situation will not change you.

kater · 11-26-2006, 07:40 PM

well i dont think the problem was money in her case since she told one of the girls she was probably genna go but then told me no.........

kater · 11-26-2006, 07:43 PM

well ive been going there for like 5 years now and ive had only a few close friendships and now they are all gone but one(by gone i mean they still go to the church just dont seem like they want to even be my friend anymore)..........and i can not tell you how many times i have left church crying because no one seems to care