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ShawnTheNoob · 11-22-2006, 11:26 AM

I appreciate the advice and guidance. It just seems all the same to me. I just don't feel like I care enough to try. I've lost all my motivation.

Casey · 11-22-2006, 11:49 AM

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Originally Posted by guitarguy90

I would highly advise against going to Planned Parenthood, because it is likely that they would advise your girlfriend to have an abortion if the pregnancy is unwanted. Instead, I would try to find a Birthright place near you.

this is ridiculous.

Chris · 11-22-2006, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Casey

this is ridiculous.

You wish to explain why? If not, then please keep the snide remarks to yourself.

WorshipJesus · 11-22-2006, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by guitarguy90

I would highly advise against going to Planned Parenthood, because it is likely that they would advise your girlfriend to have an abortion if the pregnancy is unwanted. Instead, I would try to find a Birthright place near you.

I agree with you totally!

Nomes · 11-22-2006, 03:49 PM

Hi Shawn,

I have struggled many times, trying to be my best for God. But the fact is, the only way I can be my best for God is to go to him - with my sin and my worries and my hopes for my life. I have tried over and over to do the right thing, but I will never be able to! God's grace is there to remove our sin! It's purpose is to reconcile us to God! He came to die for our sins and glorify himself. God is glorified when we submit to his grace and forgiveness.

The guys have quoted some wonderful scriptures here for you. Grace that removes our sin as far as the east is from the west! And no matter how many times we muck up, that forgiveness is available to us.

I'll be praying for you.

Casey · 11-22-2006, 07:13 PM

Even though I have a very reasonable response to this, based on my experience on the CGR boards, it will turn into an abortion debate, which is a shame, but oh well.

bobthecockroach · 11-22-2006, 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Casey

Even though I have a very reasonable response to this, based on my experience on the CGR boards, it will turn into an abortion debate, which is a shame, but oh well.

*EDITED*

You were warned once about snide remarks. Follow the warning, or I will simply start deleting any further posts of yours in here.

**beanbag** · 11-22-2006, 07:51 PM

everyone makes mistakes, and Jesus loves us all anyways.

like everyone else said, your girlfriend is most likely not pregnant. I am a girl so I do have experience with periods. it's not unnatural for them to come anywhere from every three weeks to every five or six. they skip around a lot, and six days is definitely not a big deal. I have a friend who gets hers every four months and there's nothing wrong with her.

if your girlfriend ends up pregnant, it will not be the end of the world. yes, your parents will be disappointed, but it will most likely be with themselves. they may be angry at first, but they will never stop loving you. your girlfriend's parents will never stop loving her.

a few of my cousins have been pregnant out of wedlock; I remember that with one of them (she's going to be 20 in march and is married with baby #2 on the way) her dad hit the roof when he found out. he was angry and upset and disappointed. for about a week, he didn't speak to her. he needed that time to cool down and sort things out for himself without all of his emotions getting in the way. she ended up staying with her parents until her wedding, four months after her baby was born.

if your girlfriend is pregnant, yes there will be emotional issues to deal with on your parents' parts. that does not mean they are going to kick you or her out. none of my cousins were kicked out of their homes. it does not mean your parents will love you any less. it does not make you a failure.

you made a mistake but your life is not over. you can learn from this. if your girlfriend is not pregnant and this is all just a big scare, then maybe you will realize why christians are so big on abstinence until marriage. if your girlfriend is pregnant, then you will learn maturity, responsibility and how to be a man and care for your child. regardless of the outcome, Jesus loves you. I hope that you will come to realize that.

ShawnTheNoob · 11-27-2006, 06:47 PM

I appreciate all the words of encouragement. Its been 14 days now and shes got nothing. We took a pregnancy test on the 13th day. It said she was not pregnant. I hope that it read correctly. If not then I know that I am mature enough to take care of this situation.

It scares me, though. To know that I know so little about my girlfriend and despite what I may come to learn, I will always be with her. Hard to see that. Hard to see marriage.

I may be losing my job soon. My boss isn't satisfied with the work I do. I don't understand why because i'm doing my best but obviously its not good enough. I just hope that I can manage. Someone pray that this feeling of guilt and anger towards God will go away. I just can't understand.

Besides..There is no hope for me. I may have blasphemed the Holy Ghost. I don't know exactly what blasphemy is but I know that if its irreverence..I'm doomed.

WeArEtHeFuTuRe · 11-27-2006, 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by ShawnTheNoob

My church had the biggest impact on that. They are always on you about being better. Being better. Looking down on you when you mess up instead of helping you up. Judging you because of a failure or a mistake. Even the way you dress. It makes no sense. However, it showed me how christians are. I don't believe everyone is like that but 90% of all christians are. Thats just my view.

No one on this earth has the right to judge u because you made mistakes in your life. Everyone makes mistakes i find that some christians put masks on when they go to church. They act one way outside church and the other inside church. These people obviously dont realise God is everywheres. To make you feel better at my church i dress how i want. I wear Jeans and a T-Shirt even if im playing bass in the service. I'm not goin to church to look good it isnt a fashion show. The only reason you should be at church is to praise God and learn more about him. It's people that dress fancy and make others who dont feel bad that have the real problems. I mean someone who has 20 piercings and tatoos everywere dressed all in black needs to no about God just as much as the richest person in the world wearing the best suits out there.

Find yourself a church that will accept you. Try to focus on church's were the majority of the people there are in their teen's 20's and 30's.

As for your girlfriend and you i will be praying for you. Two of my friends just had a baby and no matter what anyone says if your girlfriend is pregnant always remember this. That baby is a gift from God.

I believe everything happens for a reason and it could be this incident that brings you back to going to church and serving God full time. Sometimes it takes the worse of times to bring us out of our confort zone and bring us back to living for God.

And just so you no God will forgive any sin you commit if you truely ask for forgiveness

I pray everything works out for you.

Scott

jengoesup · 11-27-2006, 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted by ShawnTheNoob

I appreciate all the words of encouragement. Its been 14 days now and shes got nothing. We took a pregnancy test on the 13th day. It said she was not pregnant. I hope that it read correctly. If not then I know that I am mature enough to take care of this situation.

It scares me, though. To know that I know so little about my girlfriend and despite what I may come to learn, I will always be with her. Hard to see that. Hard to see marriage.

I may be losing my job soon. My boss isn't satisfied with the work I do. I don't understand why because i'm doing my best but obviously its not good enough. I just hope that I can manage. Someone pray that this feeling of guilt and anger towards God will go away. I just can't understand.

Besides..There is no hope for me. I may have blasphemed the Holy Ghost. I don't know exactly what blasphemy is but I know that if its irreverence..I'm doomed.

These threads should clear up issues about blaspheming the Holy Spirit:
http://www.christianguitar.org/forum...ad.php?t=95233
http://www.christianguitar.org/forum...ad.php?t=96281

I don't think it's something you've got to worry about; those threads explain in much more detail. I'll pray!

Casey · 11-27-2006, 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by ShawnTheNoob

Besides..There is no hope for me. I may have blasphemed the Holy Ghost. I don't know exactly what blasphemy is but I know that if its irreverence..I'm doomed.

Those threads are quite a bit to read through. If you want a quicker answer, here's one that people might not have a problem with:

I had the same worries at one time, and my pastor told me that the fact that I was worried showed that the holy spirit had not left me, that the spirit was the one responsible for keeping me accountable to myself and if I really had blasphemed him, then I wouldn't be feeling so guilty or worried in the first place, that I just wouldn't care.

Hope that helps.

jael>rock< · 11-28-2006, 10:59 PM

might i also suggest maybe trying a different church than where you were going? it sounds like they might have been a little bit extreme. Do you have any calvary chapels in your area? personally that's a type of church that i like. but yeah, over all, try and find a church body where you can be encouraged! praying for you and mary.