We only had sex once. We didn't use protection. Now she's pregnant. We're sophomores in college. We're so scared and feel so alone. What do we do?

[ForgivenPix]

First, I want you to realize that there is forgiveness. Things are going to change drastically for you guys, but you'll figure it out. You have to. You'll find a way to take care of that baby and be the best parents you can be. You may not feel ready, but God can and will help you do what you need to do. There is forgiveness. I know it's scary, but it'll be ok. It will.

[ForgivenPix]

You don't have to freak out. You are adults and you CAN handle it. Are you thinking of getting married?

[Chris]

Number one thing to remember: This baby is a blessing. Regardless of the circumstances of his/her birth.

I want to echo ForgivenPix. Are you thinking of getting married? How long have you been together? How long do you have left in college?

[TheProdigalModern]

Originally Posted by *scared*

Now she's pregnant. We're sophomores in college. We're so scared and feel so alone. What do we do?

My situation was not quite as straightforward as yours, but my then girlfriend (now wife ) was also pregnant during our sophomore year in college. It's terrifying at first, but you can make it. There is much strength in the Lord, my friend.

Avoid my mistakes, and don't resort to drinking or other self-destructive behavior when you should be searching earnestly for God's will.

Find someone Christian who has gone through a similar situation; they know what you are going through, and can give solid advice. A baby is not the end of the world--my son is one of the greatest joys in my life--but to make it you're going to need support. Don't let your shame force you into living a lifestyle of guilt; if you are a Christian, you can find relief from that in Christ; if you are not, he provides relief from all of the sins that burden you.

My advice: seek the Lord; find friends.

We are sophomores we have two more years at least we did. We will have to get married soon. We don't want our baby to be born out of wedlock. I am going to have to postpone my degree and look for full-time work. I will do whatever it takes to support her and our child.

We will try to find a support network but our parents sure won't like this. How can I face her father?!? A lot of our friends will be disappointed too.

We are trying to stay positive about this - we don't want to view our child as a problem..we messed up but I will not consider him or her to be a mistake!

[ForgivenPix]

That's awesome to hear.

[bobthecockroach]

Any friend who abandons you because of this was not a friend to begin with. I know that's no comfort, but you're doing the right thing, and don't let the prospect of people reacting poorly dissuade you. The world needs more people like you.

[cytorath]

Originally Posted by *scared*

We are sophomores we have two more years at least we did. We will have to get married soon. We don't want our baby to be born out of wedlock. I am going to have to postpone my degree and look for full-time work. I will do whatever it takes to support her and our child.

We will try to find a support network but our parents sure won't like this. How can I face her father?!? A lot of our friends will be disappointed too.

We are trying to stay positive about this - we don't want to view our child as a problem..we messed up but I will not consider him or her to be a mistake!

I too was in a similar situation, although her parents had never even heard of me before. It wasn't that she didn't want to tell them, it was just that they didn't have a very good relationship at the time. Anyway, I'm not going to lie, facing her father might be one of the hardest things you ever do in your life. It sounds to me like you two have made the best possible choices so far and as long as you go in with a positive attitude about providing for your family, there's not really too much ANYONE can say about it. Personally I applaud you for putting your family first.

There is so much that I could talk about on this. Having been through this, if you need someone, or just want to talk, pm me and I'll be more than happy to talk with you. I wish that I had people to support me when I was going through this. All of my friends at the time didn't understand why I was willing to give everything up that I had done in order to provide for my family. It's a hard thing to go through. But trust me, you are absolutely making the right decisions. I will be praying for you.

Steve.

[AlphaSigma]

praying for you.

-In Prayer-

[BillSPrestonEsq]

I am a bastard.

Lets get that out of the way. (My conception was by rape, so I am not the biological child of my dad)

First thing to think of here is never blame each other for the child or blame it for problems later. Its devastating to hear yourself through the walls to be the source of family problems. To hear your parents say they wished you never were born, etc.

I had several friends who were born out of wedlock and guess what, they had similar experiences as I, all except one. His dad never told him that he was not his real father. His mom did after he bashed on his dad for not accepting him as an adult. In a lot of ways, I think he did it right. His son never could tell he wasn't natural born. (Oddly his biological father was a pro-baseball player)

So my advice is to get married, find a job, and worry about matters as they come, but always show kindness to the child. I don't know who you are, but in a moment of frustration in the "privacy" of your room with your wife, more terror than you can imagine can be unleashed in the heart of a child. Never resent the child for your mistakes.

I know my origins are worse than this child's will be. But I just want to remind you that even in what is thought to be privacy, small hearts can be shattered.

[TheProdigalModern]

Originally Posted by *scared*

A lot of our friends will be disappointed too.

Our friends were actually very supportive. They couldn't sympathize, but they were very helpful nonetheless. I think that you'll be surprised.