What is love?

Thamar · 11-15-2006, 10:51 AM

In some of the posts above reference was made to broken relationships. In the case of a bf/gf relationship gone bad and they have to break up or adultry (same sex or otherwise with no repentance from the offending spouse) and there is divorce CAN ONE CHOOSE/DECIDE TO FALL OUT OF LOVE?

Bob....spoke about the 1 Cor 13 love and Committment. And someone else spoke about it being a choice one makes. So my question again:

CAN ONE CHOOSE/DECIDE TO FALL OUT OF LOVE?

**Rainer.** · 11-15-2006, 06:09 PM

Yes.

At least I think so. That said, I don't think you can decide not to love someone and *instantly* lose all attatchment to that person, but it is possible to consciously "fall out of love".

Thamar · 11-16-2006, 09:48 AM

I have seen cases where a wife was committed to the relationship (at leaste she said so). She accepted her spouse with the good as well as the bad. Some years into the marriage her spouse decided to find another. She hanged in there...praying that he would eventually turn....that did not happen.... One day she sought of woke up and started letting go.

I've also seen young girls going into relationships with guys who treat them badly but the stay in those relationships really long. Something happens (usually a negative experience that gives them a rude awakening) and then they are able to be free of those relationships.

I was wondering if a person has gone through that process many times (i.e. being in love) apart from the natural (agape love) we are to have for all persons no matter what, are these persons still in love with all their previous partners or should they still have the romantic love?

I think that may have been answered already. ...

bobthecockroach · 11-16-2006, 09:58 AM

I would say people can definitely fall out of love (of course, using that term makes it sound like a very random experience, and I don't think it is), but what I'd really like to know then is what's actually happening. What does it mean to be in love and what does it mean to not be in love?

Thamar · 11-16-2006, 10:07 AM

I believe the problem comes with perception. Some believe love should not change. Some believe it can. When we try to make all the forms of love fit into one, Agape, Eros, and the others, we get mixed up.

Nice question. I hope someone has the answer.

**Rainer.** · 11-16-2006, 05:14 PM

There are no answers, just opinions.

Guitaress · 01-12-2007, 06:04 PM

Okay, I got somethin to say. I wrote this as one of my blogs on my planet about maybe a couple weeks ago, so be prepared, it's 5 paragraphs long!

Love can be very intrigueing to one's mind. You hear all sorts of love stories, and it sparks the curiosity. Next thing you know, you want to find that special someone that was made for you, that one that God hand-picked out just for you. Love is sort of like that. You hear numerous love stories, see countless movies that one person finds that special someone, and your curiosity grows. Then you want nothing else than to find "the one".

But it's not as easy as it looks on T.V. In books, movies, whatever, it's that one person wandering life alone, than find a best friend, and they live happily ever after. It's not that simple. Many people can cross your path that can cause that curiosity in you to become a "love spark", but not be the right one.

Love can be a very complicated thing. If you just THINK that you love someone, that spark could go away in the blink of an eye. Love's not an emotion where thinking'll get you somewhere, you have to feel it in your heart, and in your soul. Thinking has little to do with love.