Impending Engagement

jfreek4life · 10-04-2006, 11:31 AM

See now i plan on asking my girlfriend to marry me somtime this christmas...anybody got some good ideas i can steal?

ForgivenPix · 10-04-2006, 01:02 PM

I don't have ideas, but awww! Congrats!!!

jfreek4life · 10-04-2006, 01:12 PM

thanks...man sometimes i think im to young for this....

SeizetheDay · 10-04-2006, 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by jfreek4life

thanks...man sometimes i think im to young for this....

Are you?

**Epaphras** · 10-04-2006, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by jfreek4life

thanks...man sometimes i think im to young for this....

It's not age but maturity and ability. If you're mature enough to make marriage work (I shouldn't be talking since I'm only barely 20 myself haha) and can support you and your wife then I say God bless!

As for how you are going to do it, I think girls generally like to be surprised, as in not knowing it's coming (I'm not talking about the fact of you asking, but more how and when you were going to do it). Am I right ladies?

jfreek4life · 10-04-2006, 01:43 PM

sweet i know im ready its just by todays standards ppl tell me im to young..i mean i am only 19

LefseRae · 10-04-2006, 02:44 PM

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sweet i know im ready its just by todays standards ppl tell me im to young..i mean i am only 19

I'm only 16, but I think I have info that might be helpful. My mom got married at 18 (yikes, I just realized that she was only 2 years older than I am now!!! *eek*), had me at 19 (about 8-9-10 months after they got married), and now is 36 with 7 kids. She says now that she was NO WHERE NEAR ready and mature enough to get married. She regrets getting married so early.

I'm not going to tell you what to do, but I would think about this iffen I was ya!

Singin4Him82 · 10-04-2006, 04:04 PM

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sweet i know im ready its just by todays standards ppl tell me im to young..i mean i am only 19

What standards are you refering to?

jfreek4life · 10-04-2006, 04:10 PM

well you know the one that sez the 19 yr is way to immature for such a thing like marriage.....y'know why not live together for 4 years and then get married

**thesteve** · 10-04-2006, 04:13 PM

ask her in the place where you first told her that you love her...

that's what i did and i'm getting married in january, so I must've done something right.

jfreek4life · 10-04-2006, 04:27 PM

dude that was her parents basement.....i was thinking christmas...what do you think ladies....my mom wants easter.....

**thesteve** · 10-04-2006, 04:33 PM

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dude that was her parents basement.....i was thinking christmas...what do you think ladies....my mom wants easter.....

Christmas...Easter...I realize I'm not a lady, but I don't think it matters so much as long as it's still a surprise.

and hey...her parent's basement works...just crack a little joke about it right before you pop the question. I can already see it in my head:
you - "Ha...isn't it funny that this was the place I first told you that I loved you"
her - "[insert girly words]"
you - "will you marry me?"
her - "OMG!"

for the rest of your lives (if she says yes), when people ask about your engagement, she'll tell them that you asked her in the place where you first told her you loved her...and they'll all say, "awwww how sweet"

jfreek4life · 10-04-2006, 04:36 PM

hahah thats great....i guess you are right

**thesteve** · 10-04-2006, 04:44 PM

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hahah thats great....i guess you are right

well...it was how it worked for me...granted the place was a local beach for us. still, even if she says, "oh it was my parents' basement" people will say, "wow...that's lame" and she'll be like, "no, it was the first place he told me he loved me when we first were dating..." and they'll say, "awwwww"

Singin4Him82 · 10-04-2006, 08:38 PM

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well you know the one that sez the 19 yr is way to immature for such a thing like marriage.....y'know why not live together for 4 years and then get married

Ok, so you mean the world's standards. In my opinion as it has been said the age isn't the issue, it's maturity. Maturity not in just making it on your own and being able to take care of another person but knowing that marriage is not something you do just because you love someone. Knowing that marriage take a lot of hard work each day, it's being able to be selfless, and being the husband/wife God has called you to be. No matter what age you choose to get married I strongly recommend a good amount of premarital counseling with the minister who will be marrying you because it helps so much during the adjustment period of marriage.