[Elationist]

My wife and I are giving hints about wanting kids. It's awesome! I am 8 years her senior but she (26) is finally thinking seriously (out loud at least) about preparing for child/ren! Scary, but awesome. I just wanted to share this with you all and receive any thoughts or suggestions you may have.

We are 3+ years married and have been together over 9 years.

P.S. Recently we have been doing cute things like leaving cut outs of baby faces from the toilet paper plastic bags and hiding them around the house!

[danalyn]

well, we've thought about/talked about babies. We're both 24. Factor in that my 13 year old brother moved in about 5 months ago... and that Chris is in school, we're supposed to wait.
Chris did dream about me being pregnant a week or so ago and it made him want children a little more...

[Singin4Him82]

We thought about it and here we are . Actually it took several months and one miscarriage for us, it was rough. My advice to any couple seriously considering having a baby is to begin trying as soon as they feel ready because in many if not most cases it doesn't happen right away. I can't even begin to tell you how much more amazing the bond becomes between husband and wife during pregnancy!

[SeizetheDay]

Originally Posted by Singin4Him82

We thought about it and here we are . Actually it took several months and one miscarriage for us, it was rough. My advice to any couple seriously considering having a baby is to begin trying as soon as they feel ready because in many if not most cases it doesn't happen right away. I can't even begin to tell you how much more amazing the bond becomes between husband and wife during pregnancy!

I think that your sig is so cool.

[SeizetheDay]

Originally Posted by danalyn

well, we've thought about/talked about babies. We're both 24. Factor in that my 13 year old brother moved in about 5 months ago... and that Chris is in school, we're supposed to wait.
Chris did dream about me being pregnant a week or so ago and it made him want children a little more...

So you've already got a baby-sitter then?

[Elationist]

Originally Posted by danalyn

well, we've thought about/talked about babies. We're both 24. Factor in that my 13 year old brother moved in about 5 months ago... and that Chris is in school, we're supposed to wait.
Chris did dream about me being pregnant a week or so ago and it made him want children a little more...

Awesome! This is scary, but very exciting stuff to be pondering. My wife and I certainly believe in "planning" for children so that while being good, can also create a deeper wishful posit concerning babies. Fact is, we are showing signs of wanting them and I am sooo excited!

May the Lord bless you Danalyn and your husband Chris!

[Elationist]

Originally Posted by Singin4Him82

We thought about it and here we are . Actually it took several months and one miscarriage for us, it was rough. My advice to any couple seriously considering having a baby is to begin trying as soon as they feel ready because in many if not most cases it doesn't happen right away. I can't even begin to tell you how much more amazing the bond becomes between husband and wife during pregnancy!

Praise God! Thank you soo much for sharing this encouragement. My wife doesn't know I have posted this and I am hoping to compile the responses for her and print them out as another "sneaky" loving inspiration!

Psalm 90:16-17 (NKJV) 16 Let Your work appear to Your servants,
And Your glory to their children.
17 And let the beauty of the LORD our God be upon us,
And establish the work of our hands for us;
Yes, establish the work of our hands.

Psalm 103:17 (NKJV) But the mercy of the LORD is from everlasting to everlastingOn those who fear Him, And His righteousness to children’s children,

[Elationist]

Originally Posted by SeizetheDay

I think that your sig is so cool.

I dig the I-LOVE-YOU hand and bangin` motion bro! (tea)

Do you have any little ens?

[SeizetheDay]

Originally Posted by Elationist

I dig the I-LOVE-YOU hand and bangin` motion bro! (tea)

Do you have any little ens?

No, and I am not married either, just love kids.
I guess you could say that I am interested in marriage too.

Some people find me weird b/c of that.

Good luck to you both though, sounds like you are ready.

[KFBobInsanesMom]

I can think of no greater gift God can give to a husband and wife than children. Mine have been a blessing to me every day of their lives and I consider myself the most blessed woman on the earth.

I am definitely an exception, but I find it very odd when people say they "plan" on when to have a baby based on things like financial stability, job security, etc., because all those things can disappear pretty much overnight. I believe it makes more sense to allow God to decide when we are ready for children because He knows much better than we do what tomorrow holds. I don't plan to respond to anyone who comments on this, I'm just telling you my opinion about "family planning".

[Elationist]

Originally Posted by SeizetheDay

No, and I am not married either, just love kids.
I guess you could say that I am interested in marriage too.

Some people find me weird b/c of that.

Good luck to you both though, sounds like you are ready.

Thank you for the encouragement!

~ Michael

[Elationist]

Originally Posted by KFBobInsanesMom

I can think of no greater gift God can give to a husband and wife than children. Mine have been a blessing to me every day of their lives and I consider myself the most blessed woman on the earth.

I am definitely an exception, but I find it very odd when people say they "plan" on when to have a baby based on things like financial stability, job security, etc., because all those things can disappear pretty much overnight. I believe it makes more sense to allow God to decide when we are ready for children because He knows much better than we do what tomorrow holds. I don't plan to respond to anyone who comments on this, I'm just telling you my opinion about "family planning".

Thank you for sharing that. I believe it to be wise to consider your words.

[hapa_angel]

Originally Posted by KFBobInsanesMom

I can think of no greater gift God can give to a husband and wife than children. Mine have been a blessing to me every day of their lives and I consider myself the most blessed woman on the earth.

I am definitely an exception, but I find it very odd when people say they "plan" on when to have a baby based on things like financial stability, job security, etc., because all those things can disappear pretty much overnight. I believe it makes more sense to allow God to decide when we are ready for children because He knows much better than we do what tomorrow holds. I don't plan to respond to anyone who comments on this, I'm just telling you my opinion about "family planning".

That is very, very true. And even then, however much we try to "plan" things like this, God still has plans of His own for us all.



Art and I are hoping to wait until we've been married a few years before diving into parenthood. Well okay, so I'm sort of the one pushing that idea along more. I'm 22 and I don't feel a mad rush to procreate just now (thankfully).

I do love kids and look forward to being a mom. However, I have some personal issues I'd like to work through a bit more in my life, rather than simply turning around and transferring them to another generation. Plus, I'd like some one-on-one time with Art for us to get to know each other better in synchronizing our lives before we add little ones to the mix.

A marriage relationship is quite an important relationship, if not the most important human relationship we have. As much as is possible, I don't want to be building on a shaky foundation, and I know I have some work yet to do before I can be confident in some areas of myself. [/vague]

[Elationist]

Originally Posted by hapa_angel

That is very, very true. And even then, however much we try to "plan" things like this, God still has plans of His own for us all.



Art and I are hoping to wait until we've been married a few years before diving into parenthood. Well okay, so I'm sort of the one pushing that idea along more. I'm 22 and I don't feel a mad rush to procreate just now (thankfully).

I do love kids and look forward to being a mom. However, I have some personal issues I'd like to work through a bit more in my life, rather than simply turning around and transferring them to another generation. Plus, I'd like some one-on-one time with Art for us to get to know each other better in synchronizing our lives before we add little ones to the mix.

A marriage relationship is quite an important relationship, if not the most important human relationship we have. As much as is possible, I don't want to be building on a shaky foundation, and I know I have some work yet to do before I can be confident in some areas of myself. [/vague]

Thank you for sharing this hapa_angel. I, coming from a very large family with poor status wouldn't mind so much a surprise baby---Buuuuutttt, my wife being a single child whose mother had busted her hind day-in and day-out to pull out all stops for her, as a single child, sees her own life in being a parent a lot different than I do.

I personally am thankful for the poor-but rich in size and love family that I came from. My wife sees that and almost always freaks out thinking about the finances and struggle to "make it". Of course 5 out of 6 children in my immediate family are truly born again and so are both of my parents! Praise God! So I will always believe that the wealth of struggle is always underestimated especially in this affluential and material world.

Saying all this, I am also pointing to the wisdom in the words of KFBobInsanesMom's post. However, the planning takes two lives willing to trust and submit to the "adventure of family" God has already known even before the foundations of the earth. --And my wife and I are not quite there just yet. But what do we know? We've never done this before.

Psalm 127:3 (NKJV) Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD,The fruit of the womb is a reward.

[jengoesup]

Originally Posted by SeizetheDay

No, and I am not married either, just love kids.
I guess you could say that I am interested in marriage too.

Some people find me weird b/c of that.

Naw, I'm just like you. Reading threads like this reinvigorate similar feelings of marriage and childbirth on my behalf. Heh.

Congrats, Elationist! I can't wait till I have that opportunity, if God ever gives it to me. Best of luck