Go Back   Christian Guitar Forum > Christian > Life Issues > Dating & Relationships
dating

dating

Register FAQ Members List Calendar Arcade Mark Forums Read

Reply
Page 2 of 2 1 2
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 08-28-2006, 08:51 AM   #16
Bulldogge
Administrator
 
BillSPrestonEsq's Avatar
 

Joined: Jun 2001
Location: Beaverton, Or
Posts: 37,719
paid
I am no jedi, but at various points the wrong thing to do will feel perfectly right which leads to a gulf in actuality from emotion.

My wife and I had a ton of rules in dating based on what we needed to stay pure. It wasn't pharisaical, but more to keep things from starting which we would be unable to stop.

__________________
For this I will be judged.


My Life.


POW!
BillSPrestonEsq is offline   Reply With Quote
Sponsored Links
Old 09-03-2006, 01:30 PM   #17
Registered User
 

Joined: Aug 2006
Posts: 6
Gosh i get really confused with this emotion stuff because. . . i have no emotions haha i guess i need to get my emotion chip replaced. see its stuck on happy all the time and i always smile. anyone here a emotion mechanic?
CajunBoy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-03-2006, 02:38 PM   #18
Resigned.
 
Soap's Avatar
 

Joined: Jul 2005
Location: Texas
Posts: 1,869
Send a message via AIM to Soap
The only rules I have are in the Bible.

What restrictions do my parents put on me? None, because I am trusted and my girlfriend is part of the family with us.
__________________
Soap is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-03-2006, 11:43 PM   #19
Registered User
 

Joined: Feb 2005
Posts: 785
Quote:
Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq View Post
rules are necessarry in dating, because emotions cannot be trusted.
Totally
__________________
Know your faith, Own your faith, Defend your faith, Walk your faith.
burningtr33 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-03-2006, 11:44 PM   #20
I'm on a horse.
Super Moderator
 
Rainer.'s Avatar
 

Joined: Jun 2003
Location: Seattle, WA.
Posts: 26,964
Send a message via AIM to Rainer.
My parents rules are simple...
1. No dating until you're 18. 2. When you turn 18, date ASAP and get married to have grandchildren.

Well, that's how they talk about it jokingly (well, semi... ).

To quote my dad "The main thing is that they have to be a Christian. The next thing is they should be Vietnamese. If not, it's ok, but I'd really, really like you to marry a Vietnamese girl." My parents are funny.
__________________
. . . j o n : [ FLICKR \ BLOG ]
Rainer. is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-03-2006, 11:55 PM   #21
Enginerd
 
guitarman531's Avatar
 

Joined: Aug 2006
Posts: 1,188
My parents have never really discussed dating rules with me....

but I do my best to keep myself out of potentially questionable situations with a girl (i.e. the two of us in a room alone with a closed door...etc...)...
__________________
-- guitarman531
_______________________________
guitarman531 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-04-2006, 12:50 AM   #22
Lost Dog
 
Peatrical's Avatar
 

Joined: Aug 2006
Posts: 869
Send a message via AIM to Peatrical Send a message via Yahoo to Peatrical
My parents can't really put rules on me, I am an adult now and before that if they put nayt red tape on my activities I would have seriosuly been offended. I feel I know what is right and wrong and fail to see how 32 years of extra experience gives them the right to tell me how to live. that being said I ahve never dated.
__________________
Truth isn't lying
Peace isn't fighting
Love isn't dying

My CGR Journal
Peatrical is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-04-2006, 10:51 AM   #23
I play the blues!
 
SDA_Bluesman62's Avatar
 

Joined: Jul 2006
Location: TN
Posts: 124
Send a message via AIM to SDA_Bluesman62
Well, my parents don't have any specific rules, but the rules of my relationship with my girlfriend come mostly from her mom. That being said, her mom trusts the both of us immensely. Actually, most of our "rules" have been set by us, not our parents, to keep us out of an un-Christian situation. We talked about what boundaries we had, and we know what he have to do to actually keep those boundaries, b/c it's easy to say you wont do something, but, as Bill pointed out, emotions can get the best of you.
__________________
My Gear:

Fender Standard Stratocaster. Sunburst with a tortoise shell pickguard, Texas Special pickups, and Graphtech saddles.

Ampeg Reverberocket amp. 50 watts, all-tube, 2x12 inch speakers.

Alvarez rf-8 acoustic guitar with an installed pickup.
SDA_Bluesman62 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-05-2006, 11:19 AM   #24
oh yeah....
 
Joseph352's Avatar
 

Joined: Nov 2004
Posts: 111
Send a message via ICQ to Joseph352 Send a message via AIM to Joseph352 Send a message via Yahoo to Joseph352
my parents tell me that I can date under these circumstances.

1. I am 45 years old

2. I am married and have two kids

... I am hoping they are joking around. You can never be sure about my parents.

But one thing I am sure about is this: I have to be ready for the future. Like, I plan on not dating a girl until I know I can provide for her a home, money, clothing, food, ect. Hmm, actually, it looks more like I am preparing for a marriage more than dating.
__________________
Last edited by Joseph352; 09-05-2006 at 04:12 PM. Reason: forgot some stuff.
Joseph352 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-05-2006, 02:00 PM   #25
God gave me this dundie.
 
thyfunkispure's Avatar
 

Joined: Feb 2006
Location: Sherwood OR
Posts: 857
Send a message via MSN to thyfunkispure
Quote:
Originally Posted by Joseph352 View Post
my parents tell me that I can date under these circumstances.

1. I am 45 years old
lol, pretty much the same story here.
__________________
If you think that our dance was all in the hips
Oh well, then do the twist
thyfunkispure is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-05-2006, 02:21 PM   #26
Registered User
 
passinthru's Avatar
 

Joined: Dec 2001
Location: Washington, USA
Posts: 3,611
The only dating rules that my parents ever set out, was that we had to ask permission to date. They could and did turn us kids down on that with no explanation. Any guy that wanted to date us, had to ask my Dad for his permission.

I live on my own now. My parents think that they can still dictate that part of my life. However, after a whole lot of struggling and soul searching and long conversations with my pastor, I am dating a wonderful Christian man with my parents knowledge, but not their consent.

The two of us have some rules as pertaining to physical contact, at least when we are in the same country.
__________________
“We need to give each other the space to grow, to be ourselves, to exercise our diversity. We need to give each other space so that we may both give and receive such beautiful things as ideas, openness, dignity, joy, healing, and inclusion.”
- Unknown
passinthru is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-06-2006, 09:43 AM   #27
Registered User
 
Thamar's Avatar
 

Joined: Sep 2006
Location: Small Island in the Carribean
Posts: 1,027
There were some interesting points brought out here. It is very important that rules are established or else anything goes!

We sometimes say we follow the bible rules on dating but do we know them? Do we know what is required by God? Many people like to talk about "grey" areas to excuse their behaviour. We must follow something or lese we will follow anything.
__________________
: Obey God,
leave all the consequences
to him.
Thamar is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-06-2006, 02:04 PM   #28
Rockout
 
rockout's Avatar
 

Joined: Sep 2006
Location: centerville, IA
Posts: 13
I agree with you too. They can't be trusted.
__________________
I'm Engaged To Jesus!
rockout is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply
Page 2 of 2 1 2

« Prom | Dating vs Courtship (Focus on the Family's viewpoints) »
Thread Tools
Display Modes
Linear Mode Linear Mode

Posting Rules
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On


All times are GMT -6. The time now is 08:04 AM.