[betteroffalone]

ok guys so my freind just had 5 of her REALLY close freinds come out and say they are gay.....all at once and i have no idea what to say to her and she's really upset about the whole cuz they've ben freinds for like 6 years and now they're all.....well gay soooo what should i do?

[RubberChipmunk]

Originally Posted by betteroffalone

ok guys so my freind just had 5 of her REALLY close freinds come out and say they are gay.....all at once and i have no idea what to say to her and she's really upset about the whole cuz they've ben freinds for like 6 years and now they're all.....well gay soooo what should i do?

Pray for her, pray for them, be there for her if she needs to talk/vent/cry/whatever. That's all I can recommend.

[bobthecockroach]

John 8:1-11
But Jesus went to the Mount of Olives.
Now early in the morning He came again into the temple, and all the people came to Him; and He sat down and taught them. Then the scribes and Pharisees brought to Him a woman caught in adultery. And when they had set her in the midst, they said to Him, “Teacher, this woman was caught in adultery, in the very act. Now Moses, in the law, commanded us that such should be stoned. But what do You say?” This they said, testing Him, that they might have something of which to accuse Him. But Jesus stooped down and wrote on the ground with His finger, as though He did not hear.
So when they continued asking Him, He raised Himself up and said to them, “He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.” And again He stooped down and wrote on the ground. Then those who heard it, being convicted by their conscience, went out one by one, beginning with the oldest even to the last. And Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst. When Jesus had raised Himself up and saw no one but the woman, He said to her, “Woman, where are those accusers of yours? Has no one condemned you?”
She said, “No one, Lord.”
And Jesus said to her, “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.”

1 Corinthians 9:5-13 (emphasis added)
I wrote to you in my epistle not to keep company with sexually immoral people. Yet I certainly did not mean with the sexually immoral people of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world. But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named a brother, who is sexually immoral, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner—not even to eat with such a person.
For what have I to do with judging those also who are outside? Do you not judge those who are inside? But those who are outside God judges. Therefore "put away from yourselves the evil person."

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It may not be easy for your friend, but she needs to still be a friend to these people (assuming they do not claim to be Christians; if that's the case, the situation is more complicated). Jesus was widely-known as a friend of sinners, so it stands to reason His followers should also be known as such. You should encourage your friend to love these people as Jesus would love them if He was still walking around on the Earth.

[unknown~+~]

sorry, to hear that. yeah, i agree with Rubberchipmunk & Bobthecockroach ( they are both wise), one of the best things that you yourself can do is be there for your friend, and pray.
Just keep in mind that Jesus loves those people no matter what sin they fall into. I heard once ( i don't remember where) but to " show Jesus" to people who don't know him, which is to love them, and treat them how Jesus would have treated them. They are the same people that they were before. I'll be praying!

[Shakespeare]

I agree with Bob. Christans should be reaching out to homosexuals with the love of Christ in friendship, and not treating them unkindly. For your information, I've known quite a few homosexuals, and there's always something more going on in their lives that leads them to that lifestyle, or relationship. Maybe it's a form of searching for an identity, but what has been my experience is that people who get into homosexuality have been sexually abused at some time in their lives. Not saying that's always the case, or that it's not a sin, but to effectively help someone, even to love someone who is a homosexual is to realize that it's highly likely that they have been hurt in some way.

[loveless]

most of my friends recently came out and said they were bisexual. it really does sort of turn your world upside down for awhile. but you just have to think, if this is how they were and i didn't know it, then how are they any different now than when i know? seriously. my friends are still my friends. i pray for them that they will see that what they're doing is wrong. but i don't think of them any differently as before. everyone sins. homosexuality is a sin that can be forgiven, not a condemnation to hell. remember, hate the sin, but love the sinner, right?

[SeekerOLight]

I dont understand what the big deal is. Your friends friends are gay. How does this effect her in the least? The scriptures brought up by Bobthecockroach are entirely applicable. This should not turn your world 'upside down' anymore than if you found out your friends had been lying to their parents about anything. Sin is sin.

[onebrickshy]

Love them Period

Example:

Half way through last semester my church decided as an outreach to hand out cookie on the concourse. They spent the whole day handing out something like 10,000 cookies. This happened to fall on the same day as "THE day of silence", a demonstration by the campus gay and lesbian alliance. These folks stood on the concourse in silence all day. And all day they were berated, yelled at, told they were going to hell, called names, the works. Amanda, who goes to my church, said that probably 45% of her graduate studies class is gay. She said that they were hard an callused against chrisitians because of the way they were treated by "chrisitians" on a regular basis. She had been praying for months of a way to breakthrough with this group. The day after the cookies, they were in class, and one of the leaders of the GLA looked on the floor and picked up one of our cookie fliers and said "You know these folks were different, they brought cookies and water to us during the day. And they didnt preach at us." Amanda was able to pipe up ans tell him that this was her church and was able to share the love of Christ with hearts that had been so hard to it.

My point love on her friends just as much as you love on her. They need it too. Are they in the right? No. But they dont need somebody in the name of Christ damning them to hell everytime they turn around. THis makes for hard hearts

[rokrgrl:]]

I would have to agree with SeekerOfLight. They are her friends but why is she so upset? I mean, my aunt's homosexual. All you can do is be there for them and pray.

[aznchristian28]

what rokgrl said... pray and be there...
ps try to change their ways... with the holy book...

[Inked in Blood]

Originally Posted by aznchristian28

what rokgrl said... pray and be there...
ps try to change their ways... with the holy book...

One of the main goals of Christianity for any Christian is to bring sinners to repentance.And through that saving knowledge of Christ a person is changed.A Christians job isnt to change someones ways.

[bobthecockroach]

Originally Posted by Inked in Blood

One of the main goals of Christianity for any Christian is to bring sinners to repentance.And through that saving knowledge of Christ a person is changed.A Christians job isnt to change someones ways.

A-freaking-men.

[Chem6Afreak]

Originally Posted by betteroffalone

ok guys so my freind just had 5 of her REALLY close freinds come out and say they are gay.....all at once and i have no idea what to say to her and she's really upset about the whole cuz they've ben freinds for like 6 years and now they're all.....well gay soooo what should i do?

Wow that usually doesnt happen

[Reedolo]

Originally Posted by betteroffalone

ok guys so my freind just had 5 of her REALLY close freinds come out and say they are gay.....all at once and i have no idea what to say to her and she's really upset about the whole cuz they've ben freinds for like 6 years and now they're all.....well gay soooo what should i do?

What should she do? She shoudln't even have to ask that question. If she's really their friend, then she'll still be their friend even if they're gay. If she's thinking about not being their friend anymore just because they're gay, then she's not a good friend at all.

She can keep their friend the way she always has, and if she doesn't agree with their orientaiton she can pray for them and be there for them, but it shouldn't affect their friendship.

peace

[beth1447]

Originally Posted by aznchristian28

what rokgrl said... pray and be there...
ps try to change their ways... with the holy book...

Be there,pray, and show them Jesus' love...trying to change their ways can push them away...they'll change as they find Him