Kissing

bobthecockroach · 07-12-2006, 08:42 AM

Well, unfortunetly, backing off when you've gone too far is even harder than not going too far in the first place. Only seeing each other with others around may be a good idea. That would get some kind of accountability into the relationship.

Side question: Why wait so long to get married?

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 07-12-2006, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by animator

Hello Guys,

I guess kissing is dangerous and i have found out the hard way. While we didnt have sex, we did put our hands into each others clothes. We realised what we were doing and then stopped but we did do it.

Even the kissing has got a lot more passionate and i know we cant be doing what is right. Even though we are committed to not have sex, now i am worried about the entire relationship.

We did pray and ask for forgiveness and i feel that we should stop kissing as well completely. She disagrees saying that i am over reacting. We are both deeply in love with each other now but plan to get married only in August 2008.

I want this relationship to be pure but i didnt expect it to be so difficult. Should we stop seeing each other as we seem to be causing too many problems or see each other only with others around ?

I am planning to formally propose to her in October 2006 but I do not know how i am going to be able to wait till 2008 August to kiss her again.

Once again i ask for your advice.

Biblically speaking, read 1 Corinthians 7. marriage looks like the pure option here. Anything else I am afraid will result in either burning with passion, or breaking off aspects of the relationship which will damage it severely if not destroy it.

basically your best bet at making this work is bumping up the wedding day.

animator · 07-12-2006, 09:20 PM

We did think of bumping up the wedding day but woluldnt it mean we are getting married just so we can be physical with each other. We had a long talk last night and we both agreed. NO MORE FRENCH KISSING !

When i kissed her good night yesterday, i kissed her on the forehead and it felt a lot purer and overall made me feel good.

I could bump the day up but finances are a big issue we have to collect funds to start life together. This is a very complex situation in Sri Lanka as living with parents is not an option and buying a house costs too much.

We are both planning on moving to Australia on completion of my MBA and thats why we thought of getting maried in 2008 prior to moving to aussie.

In anycase now we have firmly decided that we are not going to give in to this temptation as god brought us together and we should honour him in everything we do.

I will keep you informed on how things progress.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 07-13-2006, 08:14 AM

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Originally Posted by animator

We did think of bumping up the wedding day but woluldnt it mean we are getting married just so we can be physical with each other. We had a long talk last night and we both agreed. NO MORE FRENCH KISSING !

When i kissed her good night yesterday, i kissed her on the forehead and it felt a lot purer and overall made me feel good.

I could bump the day up but finances are a big issue we have to collect funds to start life together. This is a very complex situation in Sri Lanka as living with parents is not an option and buying a house costs too much.

We are both planning on moving to Australia on completion of my MBA and thats why we thought of getting maried in 2008 prior to moving to aussie.

In anycase now we have firmly decided that we are not going to give in to this temptation as god brought us together and we should honour him in everything we do.

I will keep you informed on how things progress.

Please read 1 Corinthians 7 before you dismiss the idea of getting married becaus of physical temptation. God seems to think thats a valid reason for marriage.

I got married about a year ago. I lived in San Diego, which is far too expensive for me to buy. I now live in Los Angeles. Once again far too expensive to buy, but I have to rent. I cannot live with parents either, nor would I reccomend it. But I would check renting and check all possible options. Do you live at home now? Does she?

animator · 07-14-2006, 01:03 AM

We both live with parents now and generally it is considered taboo for children to move out of parents house when unmarried.

I have read 1 Corinthians 7 and I think if we both find it difficult to control ourselves we can get married. I guess at the beginning even though my mouth said we have to control my heart was not in the right place.

Now its different and we are committed to keeping this relationship clean.

On a happy note though, i took her home yesterday and introduced her to my parents and brother. My father is a pastor and my mom is also very traditonal. She is a beautician and very stylish. We are also from different ethnicities (she is sinhala and i am a tamil). Her father and brothers are still Budhists and only she and her mom are Christians.

Anyways my parents loved her and thats awesome. Today i meet her parents and on Saturday the parents meet. This is customary in our culture just so that the parents know.

this will also work in our favour because she can now come home and we dont have to go out all that much.

I plan to propose to her in October 2006 in a hot air baloon over one of Sri Lanka's historic monuments

I will keep you poseted on how things go today.

Thank you brothers and sisters for all your advice and help thus far.

animator · 09-02-2006, 12:35 PM

Hi All,

Well its been a while since i was last here but a lot has happened. To make a long story short, no matter how hard we tried we have been committing the same sin of fornication once a week at least.

Now we have reluctantly decided that we will only meet once a week at church for the weekly cell meeting and then i will drop her home. Since we cannot control ourselves, this would be the best option to stay pure till the wedding.

I am proposing to her in November this year and hope to get married in August next year.

Please advice on this measure to stop any more of our escapades.

On another note my business (tourism) is hammered in Sri Lanka as a result of the fighting in the North and East of the country. This is causing me severe problems in my cash flow and planning for the wedding.

I need prayer for god to help me in this situation and help us tide through this difficult time. I dont know if this is gods punishment to me for being disobeidient to his commandments.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 09-02-2006, 01:22 PM

Can you bump up the wedding date? Biblically that is your best option.

**Thrash** · 09-02-2006, 08:28 PM

the only thing I cna tell you is to stop kissing.
I have been in several relationships, adn perhaps you ar elike me! I get distracted by kissing. soon after doing it so many times it becomes teh reason I want to see her. everntually it leaves to other things. I recently made some big mistakes (2 months ago) because of my lust for my ex...
God forgives, but havinmg any further "escapades" may ruin your relationship.

DO NOT LET IT BECOME YOUR RELATIONSHIP!!!