Newlywed: what to do?

marvinranch · 05-29-2006, 08:43 PM

OK what kinds of things do married people do in the evenings?
I mean, he gets off work, we eat, then end up reading books or surfing the net like we've got nothing better to do (other than washing dishes of course). I need more personal attention than that, but we really can't think of much that just two people can do together for just a little time in the evenings.

We do "all day" things regularly on his days off, like swimming or fishing trips, but we're at a loss for "everyday" things.

Suggestions?

Andrew · 05-29-2006, 08:48 PM

Sex.

**H.M. Murdock** · 05-29-2006, 08:54 PM

I was going to say "drugs and sex," but that could work too, Andrew.

Er... actually, there's nothing wrong with sitting on a couch and talking. *shrug*

SeizetheDay · 05-29-2006, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by marvinranch

OK what kinds of things do married people do in the evenings?
I mean, he gets off work, we eat, then end up reading books or surfing the net like we've got nothing better to do (other than washing dishes of course). I need more personal attention than that, but we really can't think of much that just two people can do together for just a little time in the evenings.

We do "all day" things regularly on his days off, like swimming or fishing trips, but we're at a loss for "everyday" things.

Suggestions?

I would say that it would be time to relax. I am not married, but I would think that it would be just fine to just sit and enjoy each others company. I mean after you are married, and know all about one another, what is there really to talk about? She will do her thing and you will do yours, or you could do what the other likes to do together.
As for things to do:
Read/Study the Bible.
Watch a movie.
Go to the Theater.
Watch a favorite show together.
Go outside and play. (You know?)
Go grocery shopping.
Garden?
Ride bikes?
Get active outside, go to the park.
Throw a frisbee.
Take the dog for a walk.
Kiss.
And for the kicker, if you are really bored, and have nothing to do, have a baby. That will give you both plenty to do.

marvinranch · 05-29-2006, 09:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Andrew

Sex.

The problem is that he said that was all we were doing together

jengoesup · 05-29-2006, 09:38 PM

Find a hobby, do something outdoorsy, play cards if you're feeling tired, spend time walking around in the city (well I guess that depends on you being close to a major city, or how fun your city can be). And yeah, as soon as I read your initial inquiry, Andrew's response came to mind

And congratulations on just getting married!

Best regards,
~Jen

**Rach** · 05-29-2006, 10:10 PM

My husband and I play games alot in the evening. We have picked up several board games at WalMart for cheap, ones that work well for just two people and we play them often times. Or just cards. We also read together, or watch TV/Movies, sit outside on our balcony and watch the sun set together. I mean, sometimes there will be nights when we are each doing our own thing, and that is totally normal and okay.

Games we play together are cribbage, monopoly, yatzee, rummycube, phase 10.

We also talk alot, about stuff that is in our immediate future, things that are on our minds, issues at work or school or with family. Sometimes just laying together in bed, talking or just being close, having that non-sexual intimacy is just amazing. And of course there is alway sex.

nix · 05-29-2006, 10:22 PM

What so many couples have told me is to find something you both enjoy doing together and do it often.

For us we do the following:
- go see a movie
- watch tv at home together
- invite friends over to watch DVD's or for dinner
- go for a walk on the beach
- go out for coffee
- have a date night once per week
- go for a drive anywhere
- sit in our spa pool till we look like prunes

- make dinner together

Mainly we do just the two of us stuff on Monday and Tuesday night. Wednesday night we host a homegroup. Thursday night we have church prayer meeting and I often have worship practise and Friday, Saturday and Sunday day/nights are with friends or just ourselves or working on the house/garden.

nix · 05-29-2006, 10:23 PM

P.S I would suggest reading " 5 love languages" to see how the both of you communicate love to each other.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 05-30-2006, 01:32 PM

Cuddle,
Watch TV,
Ride bikes,
Discuss random and bizarre things,
Play games,
random banter, (half of what gets said in our apartment would make no sense if typed. Lets say both me and my wife have a little Lewis Carol in us)
Play music together,
cook,
Clean, (Did I really just say that? but we actually have fun doing the chores together)
Watch TBN with the sound off on a Benny Hinn crusade and take turns announcing and talking for Benny. (Yes, I have done that with my wife)

**H.M. Murdock** · 05-30-2006, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

Watch TBN with the sound off on a Benny Hinn crusade and take turns announcing and talking for Benny. (Yes, I have done that with my wife)

Do either of you ever make him sound like Milton from Office Space? Man. That would be awesome.
"And, and... lightning! Lightning would come blazing down from the sky to burn the building down. If you don't listen to me. These things will happen."

I don't even know why I am posting in here.

Praisey · 05-30-2006, 03:58 PM

great suggestions have been given already... sex is the best suggestion

what me and hubby butt do are..

we browse through all the movies in PPV and select one and watch it
we lay on our bed and talk and cuddle
we do our laundry together
we take a shower together
i put lipstick on him

be imaginative... enjoy the intimacy and the goofiness of being married.

TheProdigalModern · 05-31-2006, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Praisey

great suggestions have been given already... sex is the best suggestion

Of course, only so much of that is physically possible.

Maybe we're boring. We just talk. And like Bill said, most of it makes no sense, even in context.

Oh yeah--take up cooking together. It's pretty fulfilling, and then you get to eat.