Girlfriend of 2 years breaks up

Brettation · 05-17-2006, 10:10 AM

Ok guys, I have always heard about how it is when a serious relatinship ends. (almost to the point of engagement)

Tell you what, I know rollercoasters are scarry when you look at em, but its a whole new thang when you actually ride em....

How did you guys get over the "brokenheart" syndrom?

Im going nutz walking around in my house.. So I try to do things like go out in town, hang out with people, but that doesn't help too much

bobthecockroach · 05-17-2006, 10:12 AM

Time.

jreid · 05-17-2006, 10:13 AM

Sometimes a LOT of time.

Ryan Akers · 05-17-2006, 11:31 AM

Bounty hunter...

No, time is about it. You just have to do constructive things with your time. I mean, you have the right idea of going to town and staying busy, but dude, that won't last. There's gonna be times when you're worn out from running the whole time and at that point you basically just gotta start not thinking about it. Read books at home...I hear the Bible is a pretty good one to read. In this time, drawing closer to God is a perfect thing to do because you're looking for something deeper...and God wants you in an even deeper manner.

KFBobInsanesMom · 05-17-2006, 11:54 AM

I agree with everyone else, time.

My husband left 6 years ago and I am still brokenhearted, but not like I was when he first left. One thing that has helped me, was to accept the fact that I will always love him and to stop trying to "get over it" While it may be one of the hardest things you will ever do, truly wanting happiness for her, even when it kills you that it is not with you, will lead you to a place where the brokenheartness grows into even more love (and a better love) than you had before.

Inked in Blood · 05-17-2006, 12:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Brettation

How did you guys get over the "brokenheart" syndrom?

Im going nutz walking around in my house.. So I try to do things like go out in town, hang out with people, but that doesn't help too much

Thats pretty much what I did after my girlfriend of three years broke up with me.Just do the next thing and give it time.Eventually the pain will decrease.And definitely pray for strength.

**akaukal** · 05-17-2006, 12:14 PM

i recommend prayer and socializing with other people. i hate socializing, but it helped me cheer up after my gf broke up with me.

Tim1 · 05-20-2006, 06:06 PM

yeah, thats rough...
i would suggest "time cures all evil" but sometimes you really need more. like prayer. or just talking with people you trust. especially prayer.

In My Mind · 05-20-2006, 07:12 PM

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Originally Posted by KFBobInsanesMom

While it may be one of the hardest things you will ever do, truly wanting happiness for her, even when it kills you that it is not with you, will lead you to a place where the brokenheartness grows into even more love (and a better love) than you had before.

This person knows. The love spoken of here could equate to true love in some cases. But, it will take time and care. If you truly care about this person, then there is no possible way to be forever upset about this. It is extremely upsetting, but can't be in an unforgiving type of way.

Flutey · 05-22-2006, 07:48 PM

Yea!
It might seem like you are wiating for the rain in the drought. But things l will get better yet every situation needs prayer and support. Tell your friends (if you have not already) so they can support you in prayer too.
I really know what you are talking about- and you can't image what you will do without this person. Keep God as the focus in your life. Without him you will not feel hope. But you need to move on from her- it will be the best for you. Well Just keep praying.
Flutey

Gains238 · 05-22-2006, 08:19 PM

That is terrible man. I feel for you. My ex-GF of three years broke up with me 15 days before our three year anniversary. Wanna know the excuse? She told me "God wanted her to be single."

That led me to try and reason with God and search out the reasons for Him wanting something like that. Wanna know what I felt like He was telling me? I felt that He told me that He did not really tell her to do that. Two weeks later, she is chasing some fruit cake that she had worked with the weekend before she dumped me. Talk about pain. I guess, in the end (it has been 7 months nowish) all that has helped me is God. I know that we He see's me too, He will surely see me through. I just wish that it would of came by now.

If you want to talk, I would love too. Just shoot me a PM anytime man. I have been there and know all about it. Take care and I am praying for you.

L.E.

j0s1ah · 05-26-2006, 03:00 PM

I'll pray for you too.

Gains238 · 06-02-2006, 01:24 AM

hey man, i was just wondering how you were doing. let us know. still praying for you.

FiveSpeed93 · 06-22-2006, 01:44 AM

I feel for you man, in fact I probably know exactly how you feel.

I was at about the same point in a relationship as you were and my gf broke it off. Now I've had girlfriends in the past before that one, but that one was different I could tell. Anyway...after she broke it off with me, I felt exactly how u feel. Everywhere I went reminded me of her, almost every song on the radio also reminded me of her, ect....it keeps going.

Time heals everything, sometimes alot of it. But here's some advice from someone who's been through it....DO NOT rush into another relationship. Biggest thing not to do. Try to get rid of any gifts, or little things that remind you of her. Also, and most importantly, pray and pray hard. God knows your problems even better then you do. He will guide you through any problem better then anyone here on this earth.

Thats just my advice, you know yourself better then me lol, so do what u think's best.

GibsonGuy05 · 06-22-2006, 06:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Gains238

That is terrible man. I feel for you. My ex-GF of three years broke up with me 15 days before our three year anniversary. Wanna know the excuse? She told me "God wanted her to be single."

That led me to try and reason with God and search out the reasons for Him wanting something like that. Wanna know what I felt like He was telling me? I felt that He told me that He did not really tell her to do that. Two weeks later, she is chasing some fruit cake that she had worked with the weekend before she dumped me. Talk about pain. I guess, in the end (it has been 7 months nowish) all that has helped me is God. I know that we He see's me too, He will surely see me through. I just wish that it would of came by now.

If you want to talk, I would love too. Just shoot me a PM anytime man. I have been there and know all about it. Take care and I am praying for you.

L.E.

man, i have had that exact experience twice within this past year, including once a couple weeks ago.