Would this be insulting?

SamR · 02-20-2006, 03:40 PM

Hello all. While I am still at least a year off from being married, my girlfriend and I were talking about ideas for our ceremony.
Both of us think it would be cool if we didn't serve any alcohol at the reception. Neither of us care for alcohol and would rather toast with sparkling grape juice over champagne. The only problem is we don't want to offend our guests who may like a drink. However, both of us are adament against drinking and would see it as a cool way to let everyone know how we feel about it. We also don't want those who would take advantage of free alcohol to 'make a scene' at our reception. What do you guys think?

LefseRae · 02-20-2006, 03:46 PM

It wouldn't be insulting at all. Or rather, if someone chooses to be insulted, it's not your fault.

WorshipJesus · 02-20-2006, 03:51 PM

I agree with rosebud here. It's your wedding day. Plan it the way you two want it planned.

Living Proof · 02-20-2006, 03:54 PM

If I were you I wouldn't serve it. If you don't like it, then there is no need for it, it is YOUR wedding. Plus people take advantage if it and get plastered and you may find that there roudiness may ruin your reception. Would it be insulting, absolutely not.

**Epaphras** · 02-20-2006, 03:59 PM

For someone to get hammered and make a scene would be more insulting to you and your bride than refusing to serve alcohol at your own wedding reception.

Sparkling grape juice is a great idea. Congrats and good luck!

LefseRae · 02-20-2006, 04:08 PM

Yes, or sparkling cider.

DreamChaser · 02-20-2006, 04:09 PM

Heya,

Someone would have to be nuts to be insulted by that. Sounds like a good idea to me.

SamR · 02-20-2006, 04:19 PM

Thanks for the input, guys. I personally would not be afraid to do it, but my girlfriend's mother (who would most likely be the benefactor to this) didn't so quickly agree and raised the idea that it may be insulting. I know there will be people in attendance who like their alcohol and while I don't want to make them upset, it is my day

LefseRae · 02-20-2006, 04:22 PM

Just show here this thread. *grins*

jengoesup · 02-20-2006, 04:35 PM

We can all sign a petition if you want

But really, she shouldn't be insulted (and neither should anyone else) that alcohol is not being offered; it's your one memorable day, it's your party, and you're paying for it. If you feel guilty, provide other inventive, fun alternatives. Jolt Cola, anyone? (completely kidding on the Jolt, by the way).

ICTHUS · 02-20-2006, 05:45 PM

I'm sure no one would be offended. However, I'm curious as to why you two are against the responsible drinking of alcohol, unless one of you was exposed to alcoholism or something as a child, in which case it's totally a Romans 14 issue.

Nate · 02-20-2006, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by ICTHUS

However, I'm curious as to why you two are against the responsible drinking of alcohol, unless one of you was exposed to alcoholism or something as a child, in which case it's totally a Romans 14 issue.

In which case it's alright for them to be against it / not want it at their wedding.

SamR · 02-20-2006, 06:07 PM

Well while neither of our parents drink, we both have seen the damaging effects of alcohol with some of our relatives (who would most likely be coming to the ceremony as well) Combined with the fact that neither of us even like alcohol, we just think it would be a funny and cool thing to toast with sparkling juice and serve that instead. It also eliminates drinking and driving after the reception...

Benny Hicks · 02-20-2006, 08:12 PM

Both my fiancé and I enjoy wine and I very much enjoy beer, but we won't be having alcohol at our wedding, mostly because we don't want to have to pay for it. There is nothing insulting in not serving alcohol. However, I would be weary of not serving alcohol with the intention of making a point that you think it is wrong. It's your wedding. If you don't want alcohol, don't serve it. But don't try to patronize people by withholding it just so people will notice that you don't approve of it. I would find that insulting. The intention is the equivalent of posting little notes on every table that read: "Notice that no alcohol is being served at this reception. Think about that."

SamR · 02-20-2006, 08:23 PM

Oh no no that's not what I meant by that. We're not witholding it as a way of sticking it to our guests, just that neither of us like it, don't want to deal with the hassle, and think it would be a fun break of 'tradition'