younger women

smitty2622 · 02-08-2006, 05:34 PM

Maybe not wrong to be attracted but if it was my daughter you’d better stay away for quite some time. Dads don’t always care about what’s right when it comes to their little girls sometimes our rules are way beyond protective…

Peace

4Glory · 02-08-2006, 07:00 PM

Side note and I appologize if this should be a different thread, in which case mods please feel free to delete this:
What do you think of a difference in age of a 17 year old girl and a 22 year old guy? Both in the same church.

jengoesup · 02-08-2006, 07:23 PM

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What do you think of a difference in age of a 17 year old girl and a 22 year old guy? Both in the same church.

Well, to me that seems a little bit more acceptable than a 13 and a 17 year old. (Not that you intend to do anything) but a 17 year old girl is at least past the legal age of consent, and will be an adult within a year. Honestly, I don't see the point of a 13 year old dating a 17 year old. Within a year the 17 year old will be moving on in his or her life, perhaps going to college. The eighth grader has yet to have his or her first highschool experience! I remember I knew a 14 year old going out with a 19 year old, and I was shocked. I was even more shocked to learn of a 16 year old going out with a 23 year old. Needless to say, even though 13 and 17 are only four years apart, there is a lot of growing up and maturation during those four years which makes these two people very different, which doesn't exactly create the most desireable of dating situtations.

adamkaboom · 02-08-2006, 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by jengoesup

Well, to me that seems a little bit more acceptable than a 13 and a 17 year old. (Not that you intend to do anything) but a 17 year old girl is at least past the legal age of consent, and will be an adult within a year. Honestly, I don't see the point of a 13 year old dating a 17 year old. Within a year the 17 year old will be moving on in his or her life, perhaps going to college. The eighth grader has yet to have his or her first highschool experience! I remember I knew a 14 year old going out with a 19 year old, and I was shocked. I was even more shocked to learn of a 16 year old going out with a 23 year old. Needless to say, even though 13 and 17 are only four years apart, there is a lot of growing up and maturation during those four years which makes these two people very different, which doesn't exactly create the most desireable of dating situtations.

Agreed

Rock for God · 02-08-2006, 11:20 PM

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Originally Posted by smitty2622

Maybe not wrong to be attracted but if it was my daughter you’d better stay away for quite some time. Dads don’t always care about what’s right when it comes to their little girls sometimes our rules are way beyond protective…

Peace

Haha that's great! I'm not a Dad, but I have 4 sisters and sometimes I'm pretty darn defense about them. Of course they're all older than me, two of them are actually married so I don't have much say there, but with the one that's still sort of at home I'm pretty protective of.

I don't see anything wrong with being attracted to someone that much younger, but the likelyhood of it ever going anywhere serious is pretty low. 17 and 22 is a little better because of the whole maturaty issue. Hah for crying out loud, one of my sisters is 24 and dating a guy who's 38.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 02-09-2006, 09:01 AM

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Originally Posted by jengoesup

Well, to me that seems a little bit more acceptable than a 13 and a 17 year old. (Not that you intend to do anything) but a 17 year old girl is at least past the legal age of consent, and will be an adult within a year. Honestly, I don't see the point of a 13 year old dating a 17 year old. Within a year the 17 year old will be moving on in his or her life, perhaps going to college. The eighth grader has yet to have his or her first highschool experience! I remember I knew a 14 year old going out with a 19 year old, and I was shocked. I was even more shocked to learn of a 16 year old going out with a 23 year old. Needless to say, even though 13 and 17 are only four years apart, there is a lot of growing up and maturation during those four years which makes these two people very different, which doesn't exactly create the most desireable of dating situtations.

what does legal age of consent have to do with anything in a godly relationship? (Its 18 in some states btw) I would still watch things with a 17 year old. Thats a huge gap still.

**adamwagg** · 02-10-2006, 05:22 AM

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Originally Posted by 4Glory

What do you think of a difference in age of a 17 year old girl and a 22 year old guy? Both in the same church.

I think it is fine.
Im 22, my girlfriend is 17. We both go the same church!

jengoesup · 02-12-2006, 01:25 PM

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what does legal age of consent have to do with anything in a godly relationship? (Its 18 in some states btw) I would still watch things with a 17 year old. Thats a huge gap still.

Well, legal age of consent has everything to do with it, because people are more likely to condone the actions of the couple. If one of the members of the couple is quite over the age of consent and one is very much under, people are going to question the legality of the relationship, whether it is under God or not.

**jamforchrist123** · 02-12-2006, 02:17 PM

Just out of curiosity, me and this girl are 15 and 13 (I am 15). I don't plan on really "dating" for quite a while, but what do you think of this age difference? I mean, I am way to young to date or anything, but more as "good friends" or something. I mean, we both really like each other, just not ready to date for quite a while.

OctaviusIII · 02-12-2006, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by jengoesup

Well, legal age of consent has everything to do with it, because people are more likely to condone the actions of the couple. If one of the members of the couple is quite over the age of consent and one is very much under, people are going to question the legality of the relationship, whether it is under God or not.

The thing that always got me about this line of reasoning is that age of consent doesn't apply for dating, or making out, or really anything except for sex. So, unless you're planning on having sex with someone under age, then you are definitely within the limits of the law.

Pre-Ex-Girlfriend · 02-12-2006, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by jamforchrist123

Just out of curiosity, me and this girl are 15 and 13 (I am 15). I don't plan on really "dating" for quite a while, but what do you think of this age difference? I mean, I am way to young to date or anything, but more as "good friends" or something. I mean, we both really like each other, just not ready to date for quite a while.

Well, I guess this age difference makes more sense than 13 and 17, but you should definitely still pay attention to what everyone has been saying about the whole maturity issue and their advice about dating at very young ages.

When I was a junior in high school, I liked a guy in 8th grade. Nothing ever came of it because of the whole maturity issue. But now, in my senior year of college, I am happily dating a guy who is 2 & 1/2 years younger than me. What I want to say is, when it comes to age differences, it really depends on the individuals in the relationship. I don't think it makes sense to try and make any kind of rule about how old some one has to be for it to be o.k. for you to like them.

burningtr33 · 02-12-2006, 09:24 PM

Jeez man she's only in 8th grade. I guess wait bcuz i still think a junior going out with a freshmen is still something wrong.

bobthecockroach · 02-12-2006, 09:25 PM

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Originally Posted by burningtr33

Jeez man she's only in 8th grade. I guess wait bcuz i still think a junior going out with a freshmen is still something wrong.

Why?

adamkaboom · 02-13-2006, 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by burningtr33

Jeez man she's only in 8th grade. I guess wait bcuz i still think a junior going out with a freshmen is still something wrong.

Really? Whats wrong with a junior and a freshman? (BTW...in MOST cases, I am not for HS dating...heartbreak waitin' to happen)

Novan_Leon · 02-14-2006, 09:17 AM

As long as both of you are 17+ the age doesn't matter.

Period.

There are certain rules of society that make serious relationships under the ages of 17... not a good idea. Worldly society asside, please avoid romantic relationship in the temporary sense and please wait until both of you are mature (maturity has little/no relationship to age, some people never mature).