[Pre-Ex-Girlfriend]

Originally Posted by SilverNitrate

Maybe it's just me... or maybe it's a lot of guys... but speaking for me personally... I always hate these kinds of questions/conversations.

I feel as if I'm being interrogated by the CIA or something. What goes through my mind the entire time I'm answering is "Crap... what's the answer she's looking for? No matter what I say it's going to be wrong... and then she's going to get her feelings hurt because my honest answer isn't what she expects..." and it just goes on from there.

Then again... maybe this is just me... and maybe that's one of the reasons why I haven't ever had a relationship last longer than 3 months. *shrug*

Oh dear.

All I was trying to say is that everyone has a different idea of how to show love, and they probably enjoy receiving love in the same way they give it. For example, if I want to show some one that I really care about them, I will write them a letter or send a card (and if I'm really wanting to show I care, it will be hand-made), and so when I receive a card or letter, I feel extra loved by that person.

If a conversation isn't the best way to find out how your special some one feels the most loved, then just pay attention to how they show love the most. Do they always want to spend time with you? Do they give you things or do things for you? Or do they simply tell you they love you? However they show love, that is how you should show you love them. Although it is a lot faster to just ask them.

I onced asked Skeeter what his 'love language' was, and he just laughed and rolled his eyes. So I rephrased the question to "What is something I have done that has made you feel loved by me?" (The answer he gave has proven very useful.) There really is no right or wrong answer to a question like that, provided that it is asked in complete honesty with the intention of being able to love the other person better.

[Kato]

Her arms around my neck, a small kiss, and a simple "I love you".. *sigh*

[Mara's Mom]

Obviously, it's going to be different for everyone. But my one word of advice on Valentine's Day gifts is to keep it simple. It's very difficult to avoid the idea that each year it needs to be something bigger and better. That goes for all holidays/occasions.

I like cooking special things for Mr. D. Things I don't normally have the time or budget to prepare very often. One year it was my mom's lasagne (which is very involved), another year it was steak and shrimp.

Some years we don't do much of anything. Some years we may have a gift for each other. Our 2nd Valentine's Day I gave him two old Chicago CDs. That is probably one of the best gifts I've ever given him. Mara was born in December and it was her first Valentine'd Day with us. He listened to the CDs while he kind of danced with her all swaddled up in her blanket. One of those songs is The Mara Song now. I'm sure they'll be dancing to it at her wedding.

[BillSPrestonEsq]

I feel awkward as a married answering this because what I would like is mostly physical, as in a massage from her, but that is innapropriate for most of the people here.

[KATMAN]

Since you only have thirty minutes together,how about a goofy card,and a sack lunch from your (and his)favorite fastfood joint? Trust me,he'll love the wacky card and the food.I enjoy them when my wife gives them to me,and it's also my anniversery.

[Elationist]

Some things:

I love to have my wife acknowledge God with me in prayer.

I love for her to receive more than give.

I love for her to get cards and certificates to cool things like: movies, sun spas, nails, etc.

That's what this man like [wants] for Valentines. I want this holiday to be centered on women as the recipients.

However, if she must do something for me...

I want a card, sincerely with her heart in words.

I want maybe a gift like Christmas time gifts: anything she has heard me talk about or mention. Like me, I love DVD's, books and audio CD's...that are reference library material.

I love time together going over our futures commitments to one another and our Vision of where God is leading us...not me or her, but US.

Oh, and yeah, I actually like flowers too. Yes! I really do. Any kind from my lady who loves me is awesome!

[Living Sacrifice]

Originally Posted by BelovedOne

Hey everyone,

Well I saw the other valentine day gift thread and thought I would start one about what GUYS like. I definitely don't have a clue what to do for my man! We are very serious, have been together for a long time, and are planning on getting married as soon as circumstances allow (long story). Anyway, we already have a scrapbook, we do the picnic thing all the time, I cook for him whenever possible already... he hates getting cologne as a gift... I thought about writing him a song, but I'm not really getting anywhere with that. To complicate matters, we'll only get about 30 minutes together on valentines day... Anyway, suggestions would be wonderful!

Gibsons