[adamkaboom]

Originally Posted by bobthecockroach

I really hate doing this...

No, seriously, I do...

..but I have to:

What exactly is a crush, and why isn't it worth pursuing?

Hmm....very good point. I too would like to know this phenomena know as the "crush".

[Chris]

The way I interpret crush is the initial fuzzy feelings and google eyes associated with liking someone. I don't think they're a bad thing to pursue, just that you really have to get your head out of the clouds and back on your shoulders before you do. As crushes have the uncanny ability to remove all sense and reason from a person. Also, many people automatically equate them with love and feel that as the crush fades (inevitably) love also does. So until a person is in a state of emotional maturity where they can differentiate between all of this and pull their own head out of the sky, it's usually wiser to forego the pursuit of such feelings. [/pretentious know-it-all]

[adamkaboom]

Originally Posted by Chris

The way I interpret crush is the initial fuzzy feelings and google eyes associated with liking someone. I don't think they're a bad thing to pursue, just that you really have to get your head out of the clouds and back on your shoulders before you do. As crushes have the uncanny ability to remove all sense and reason from a person. Also, many people automatically equate them with love and feel that as the crush fades (inevitably) love also does. So until a person is in a state of emotional maturity where they can differentiate between all of this and pull their own head out of the sky, it's usually wiser to forego the pursuit of such feelings. [/pretentious know-it-all]

[OctaviusIII]

Since the question has been asked and an answer given, I suppose I should chime in on what a crush is as well. For the most part, I agree with Chris. The only aspect I would add would be that it is primarily an eros sort of feeling. I tried writing out that emotion once and it came out very... well, let's just say it led me to see infatuations/ crushes as eros. In light of that, however, why should one pursue a relationship based on it? Because the attraction is there, and it's good discipline to get yourself into a place where fear doesn't control your actions. Not all attractions should be pursued, but if the situation is right (for example, you don't just want to get in his/her pants), then go for it.

[wojomojo1616]

im 18 i get crushes all the time... a new one every day lol nothing wrong is puruing a crush every relationship out there ever of allll time started with one a crush in my oppinion is the fun akward stage before a relationship... i live for crushes there the thrill of the hunt, lol and all this talk about akward silence is wierd i never have that... when i feel it comming i just ask millions of questions ALWAYS starting with "hey do u like strawberrys?" lol it usually gets a laugh and starts pretty interesting conversations then i play the faverite game..."whats ur fav ...." then it usually turns into a back and forth game where u ask questions gets fun and finds common ground

(p.s. guys always hang up first ! when ur saying ur goodbyes dont over do it... say "well im gonna get some sleep" or somethin wait for "ok i'll ttyl" and say cool i''l call ya, gnight then" and hang up ! when u hang up it leaves them without to much closure so they sub-conciously want to talk to u more. and don't wait till the silence to do it that leaves things uneasy.)

[Chris]

Originally Posted by wojomojo1616

im 18 i get crushes all the time... a new one every day lol nothing wrong is puruing a crush every relationship out there ever of allll time started with one a crush in my oppinion is the fun akward stage before a relationship...

So you get new crushes every day and DON'T see why it'd be wrong to pursue them? (O_o) I think the fact that you can't concentrate on one girl for more than a day (according to your post) indicates it's a bad idea to pursue and I would advise anyone else who experiences crushes in this manner to wait and mature a little bit more.

i live for crushes there the thrill of the hunt,

contrary to popular belief, girls are not "big game." That isn't a flattering analogy... or even a good one.

(p.s. guys always hang up first ! when ur saying ur goodbyes dont over do it... say "well im gonna get some sleep" or somethin wait for "ok i'll ttyl" and say cool i''l call ya, gnight then" and hang up ! when u hang up it leaves them without to much closure so they sub-conciously want to talk to u more. and don't wait till the silence to do it that leaves things uneasy.)

And you suggest maintaining a relationship through manipulation? You may not see it as such but you are suggesting to "play" with the girl to keep her interest. As one of the married folk on this board I can say with full certainty that you shouldn't have to do that. I never once had to manipulate my wife while we were dating to maintain her interest. If you can't hold her attention without trickery and mind games, then--I'll let you in on a little secret--it's lookin' pretty bleak for the future of the relationship.

[Andrew]

I shot myself in the head six times because of this thread. It's such a nightmare that I am still alive.

[Novan_Leon]

A "Crush" is the natural (and sometimes powerful) attraction of someone towards a member of the opposite sex sometimes mistaken for love.

Key difference:
Love is true(1 Corinth 13:4) and not necessarily romantic.
Crush is sensual and always romantic.