HELP

Neill10 · 01-19-2006, 03:33 PM

Not have sex any more.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 01-19-2006, 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Neill10

Not have sex any more.

Ok, I was confused because earlier you said you had been chaste. (meaning no sex.) Sex outside of marriage is wrong, period. Its good you two are backing away from that, but the thing is, after 7 years of a relationship like this, it seems like marriage would be the right thing.

OctaviusIII · 01-19-2006, 03:47 PM

I'm not entirely sure what the relationship looks like, and whether marriage would be a good idea. Talk to the pastor he spoke with, and keep an open mind. Ask him whether you two should be together, and why or why not. He probably knows far more than any of us do about what's been going on (so far I only have a very sketchy picture of the relationship as a whole), so he'd possibly be a better advisor than any of us.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 01-19-2006, 04:05 PM

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Originally Posted by OctaviusIII

I'm not entirely sure what the relationship looks like, and whether marriage would be a good idea. Talk to the pastor he spoke with, and keep an open mind. Ask him whether you two should be together, and why or why not. He probably knows far more than any of us do about what's been going on (so far I only have a very sketchy picture of the relationship as a whole), so he'd possibly be a better advisor than any of us.

Biblically though, the two joining each other to the other sexually does bring into view the fact that marriage most likely should occur. Not only that, both parties seem to be professing believers.

But it seems like this relationship has a lot of strikes against it.

Neill10 · 01-30-2006, 10:07 AM

Ok, I had a talk with him and He told me that he is not mad at me nor does he not want me around. He said that he has been to dependant on me with everthing is his life.and in order to kinda stand on his own me being around doesnt help alot and that If he is around me he knows that he can't control hisself (lust) he wnat to be able to be around me and not think about me like that,He thinks very high of me in other ways that's why he wants me to be a part of him, becuase I have been positive the whole way through. Even though he loves me very much and want me to be part of his life when it comes to me he is weak. He said that he has feelings too ...... and he still has a long way to Go with God.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 01-30-2006, 10:26 AM

1 Corinthians 7:1Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.[a] 2But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6I say this as a concession, not as a command.

Neill10 · 01-31-2006, 09:28 AM

Thanks,That is what I have started to live by because I want to do what's right through and by God. He said that he wants to get to that point. I tld him that i can be around him and live and pray in Gods way. He is having a very hard time....... He also said that his dependence on me needs to be stopped. But If I stop helping want that be wrong of me. God wants us to help each other. I do want him to be the man, provider etc but if he does or can do it and I can then why am I being puinshed for helping.....If he said that if where to turn to his friends they can't help