Getting married young/in college

**Epaphras** · 01-19-2006, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Singin4Him82

So that means you've had a relationships knowing one another in person for four months now, correct? If that is the case I would highly recommend focusing on getting to know one another much better in person first before focusing on when you should get married. I don't mean that in a negative way but marriage is a incredibly serious decision and commitment to make, you want to be sure you are making it with the right person before jumping into it and premature planning could be a mistake. Does that make sense? Even if you feel you know one another very well, you still have until at the earliest 2007 so I would advise you to really just put your focus on the relationship right now and really getting know everything about one another so that you can really discern for sure if this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and if that is God's will for your lives as well.

I hear what you're saying. We're not getting married tomorrow, it'll be almost a year and a half from now at the earliest.

I was just posting to ask if in general getting married while college is wise (provided the means are there), and more specifically if it is wise for our situation.

Again, this would happen a long time from now, during which time we'd get to know each other even better.

Andrew · 01-19-2006, 12:52 PM

A year and five months of LDR is conducive to getting to know someone REALLY well. I don't think knowing each other is going to be an issue for you guys.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 01-19-2006, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Andrew

A year and five months of LDR is conducive to getting to know someone REALLY well. I don't think knowing each other is going to be an issue for you guys.

So true, the in person bit is not as important as some people make it out to be. If you are transparent online and on the phone, and totally honest, a relationship will be on as solid a foundation as if it was in person, maybe sounder as its hard to be excessively physical over distance.

KFBobInsanesMom · 01-19-2006, 09:45 PM

I got married while in college and I would highly recommend you wait. What should have been no more than a year and a half left of school for my (ex)husband, ended up being almost 4 years. There was no time for "us" and it was very difficult. I will honestly admit that I became very bitter because the fact is that his education came before me. While I could understand that at times this was necessary, it wasn't a good way to start out a marriage.

mmistretta · 11-06-2010, 07:26 PM

So me and my boyfriend are basically in the same situation, but its my parents who want us to wait till after. I don't want to cause tension but at the same time I want to be my own person. We have been together for two and a half years and are both freshmen in college and are thinking about getting married after out junior year.