[loriborealis]

Originally Posted by Sapphy

In Britain it is illegal to smack with anyhting other than a hand.

Just my 2 cents

I was going to mention this if no one else did.

No offense to Nix, but I think that's a silly idea. No child is going to think, "My parents hit me with the same hand they love me with! Mixed signals, mixed signals!" but then, "My parents spank me with a belt but love me with their hands. Ah, now THAT'S consistency."



But yeah, it's illegal here to spank with an implement. I completely agree. Spanking with an object comes a bit too close to abuse, but that's my own personal opinion and I wouldn't condemn another parent using one.

[GRibbit]

I agree with what you've said, Lori. My friend does that with her son; spanks him with a belt or paddle, but never with her hands, for hands are for loving not spanking. He knows the difference.

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What do you guys think about other people spanking your child(ren)?
For example: My best friend has a 6-year old boy who has been testing my authority over him lately. His mom has given me full permission to spank him when he steps out of line. How do you guys feel about that? Why or why would you not allow someone else to spank your child if they get out of line?

Not trying to start a debate, just a question.

[mmmthasgood1]

I was spanked alot, i was a naughty boy . And i love my parents for it. Kept me from being alot worse off.

Have you guys seen those double secret minicooper english supernanny shows on like ABC, a couple swift slaps to the rear would set those kids straight.

Although they probably have never been punished that harshly before and...


ah they need it

[KFBobInsanesMom]

Originally Posted by GRibbit

I agree with what you've said, Lori. My friend does that with her son; spanks him with a belt or paddle, but never with her hands, for hands are for loving not spanking. He knows the difference.

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What do you guys think about other people spanking your child(ren)?
For example: My best friend has a 6-year old boy who has been testing my authority over him lately. His mom has given me full permission to spank him when he steps out of line. How do you guys feel about that? Why or why would you not allow someone else to spank your child if they get out of line?

Not trying to start a debate, just a question.

I never left my boys with anyone who wouldn't spank them if they needed it, but then again, it was extremely rare that I ever left my boys with anyone. I don't think Nate was left with anyone more than a half dozen times in his entire life.

[thedemonhunter]

Originally Posted by guitarmonkey<><

She is taking a Psychology class, and they brainwashed her. . .

She says that it teaches children to be aggresive and that hitting is ok. And that some statistic shows that women who were spanked as children marry abusive husbands. Nonsense really. I just love her so much, I can't stand to shut her down. So, I changed the subject to the weather.

But, what do you all think of it.

That is complete (something I will not say on here as it's a Christian site). There is no hard evidence that spanking does anything bad, and no one would be damaged other than physically for being spanked.

I was spanked a lot as a kid, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with me. As Mark Lowry says, "some pseudo-psychological idiot said 'Don't spank your children, it'll squelch their personality.' Well momma squelched my personality all over the house!"
I would love to see anyone show that spanking is anything other than a good discipline for kids who definitely need something they will remember as much as a spanking.

[fallinguprawks]

I was spanked, and I think spanking's good. There are no vital organs to dammage in your bum, and, although it hurts, it gets the point across to young children in a way that does not permanently affect them. Still, I'd say spank only when completely necessary, which shouldn't be too often. I was "over-spanked" by my dad in kidnergarten. I think he had anger issues mixed with an inferiority complex, and saw my donkey as the only thing he could take out his frustrations on. Fortunately, we got a dog soon, so he had fun beating that for little or no reason. Inhumane, but better a dog than me.

[BillSPrestonEsq]

Originally Posted by fallinguprawks

I was spanked, and I think spanking's good. There are no vital organs to dammage in your bum, and, although it hurts, it gets the point across to young children in a way that does not permanently affect them. Still, I'd say spank only when completely necessary, which shouldn't be too often. I was "over-spanked" by my dad in kidnergarten. I think he had anger issues mixed with an inferiority complex, and saw my donkey as the only thing he could take out his frustrations on. Fortunately, we got a dog soon, so he had fun beating that for little or no reason. Inhumane, but better a dog than me.

While spanking can be good...

...You provided a good argument against it. I was spanked and still have scars from it.

[KFBobInsanesMom]

Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

While spanking can be good...

...You provided a good argument against it. I was spanked and still have scars from it.

I would say you weren't spanked them, you were beaten. A spank does not cause anything more than a redness on the bottom, any more than that is not a spank.

[slap_j]

Originally Posted by GRibbit

What do you guys think about other people spanking your child(ren)?
For example: My best friend has a 6-year old boy who has been testing my authority over him lately. His mom has given me full permission to spank him when he steps out of line. How do you guys feel about that? Why or why would you not allow someone else to spank your child if they get out of line?

Not trying to start a debate, just a question.

Hey, Heather. I haven't seen you around in forever. Of course I really haven't been around much...

Anyway, I'm not a parent but when I was little my mom would only allow my grandparents to use such punishment on my brother and I. I think it comes down to trusting those you've charged with watching your children and understanding your child. And when anyone laid a hand on us that wasn't authorized my mother went supernova...er, I mean she really didn't appreciate it.

[nate95366]

Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

While spanking can be good...

...You provided a good argument against it. I was spanked and still have scars from it.

Originally Posted by KFBobInsanesMom

I would say you weren't spanked them, you were beaten. A spank does not cause anything more than a redness on the bottom, any more than that is not a spank.

I'd agree even if the scars are not merely physical ones. Spanking should not cause mental/emotional "scarring" either, just adequate correction for those who are unable/unwilling to reason out more behavior-appropriate corrections. If what happened even left mental/emotional scars, it was overdone by a lot.

Nate