How should I go about this?

4Glory · 09-19-2005, 07:21 AM

Hey guys, once again I'm looking for your advice so Bill and the rest please feel free to have your say.
Most of you know my situation, that is, my faince broke it off with me in late August of this year and I have been recovering from that but its been going pretty good so far.

Well now I met this new girl, she is wonderful, she's a passionate Christian (im 22 she just turned 23, so no real conflicting of age etc) and we just went out to meet eachother yesterday at Tim Hortons. We went for a nice walk in the park and sat on the swings and talked, etc, it was very nice.

My advice that I'm asking for is how to keep level headed about this. I know that I like her a lot, but this is the infatuation part of it. I don't know her all that well yet and I bet that I'm still rebounding from my recent breakup. I was up front and honost to her, I told her I recently broke up etc, and we are still going to get together again on wendsday night. I don't know if she is into me yet but she seems interested.
I'd love to hear some good suggestions on how to start a good friendship with this new girl, while keeping things open and balenced. What are some appropriate activities for us to do together? I want to take her to my University fellowship group and she really wanted to do that but them I'm also scared she will find another guy she might like there. See I know I"m being unrational about it so if any of you have some good suggestion on how to move forward on this I'd really appricate it.
Thanks again.

HolyRockJfreak · 09-20-2005, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by 4Glory

Hey guys, once again I'm looking for your advice so Bill and the rest please feel free to have your say.
Most of you know my situation, that is, my faince broke it off with me in late August of this year and I have been recovering from that but its been going pretty good so far.

Well now I met this new girl, she is wonderful, she's a passionate Christian (im 22 she just turned 23, so no real conflicting of age etc) and we just went out to meet eachother yesterday at Tim Hortons. We went for a nice walk in the park and sat on the swings and talked, etc, it was very nice.

My advice that I'm asking for is how to keep level headed about this. I know that I like her a lot, but this is the infatuation part of it. I don't know her all that well yet and I bet that I'm still rebounding from my recent breakup. I was up front and honost to her, I told her I recently broke up etc, and we are still going to get together again on wendsday night. I don't know if she is into me yet but she seems interested.
I'd love to hear some good suggestions on how to start a good friendship with this new girl, while keeping things open and balenced. What are some appropriate activities for us to do together?

Walks are great ideas, movies, maybe even cards or board games.

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Originally Posted by 4Glory

I want to take her to my University fellowship group and she really wanted to do that but them I'm also scared she will find another guy she might like there.

I wouldn't worry about that, dude, if she wants to go I would bring her.

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Originally Posted by 4Glory

See I know I"m being unrational about it so if any of you have some good suggestion on how to move forward on this I'd really appricate it.
Thanks again.

She sounds cool, just be her friend and things will escalate, God Bless!

PaidInFull · 09-21-2005, 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by 4Glory

Hey guys, once again I'm looking for your advice so Bill and the rest please feel free to have your say.
Most of you know my situation, that is, my faince broke it off with me in late August of this year and I have been recovering from that but its been going pretty good so far.

Well now I met this new girl, she is wonderful, she's a passionate Christian (im 22 she just turned 23, so no real conflicting of age etc) and we just went out to meet eachother yesterday at Tim Hortons. We went for a nice walk in the park and sat on the swings and talked, etc, it was very nice.

My advice that I'm asking for is how to keep level headed about this. I know that I like her a lot, but this is the infatuation part of it. I don't know her all that well yet and I bet that I'm still rebounding from my recent breakup. I was up front and honost to her, I told her I recently broke up etc, and we are still going to get together again on wendsday night. I don't know if she is into me yet but she seems interested.
I'd love to hear some good suggestions on how to start a good friendship with this new girl, while keeping things open and balenced. What are some appropriate activities for us to do together? I want to take her to my University fellowship group and she really wanted to do that but them I'm also scared she will find another guy she might like there. See I know I"m being unrational about it so if any of you have some good suggestion on how to move forward on this I'd really appricate it.
Thanks again.

First, be her friend. Make no advances whatsoever, let her have her space. Dont hound her and call her all the time etc etc. Let her know that you want to hang with her, and set something up. Dont goto the movies EVERY outing, mix it up. Be confident (girls love that), funny yet smart, and dont be Mr. Macho. Open EVERY door for her (but dont be quirky doing it, be cool), and let her enter first. Dont sweet talk her 24/7 (even if she likes it, because you will just end up being wipped), and treat her like a Queen (means hands off 100% until she says so *ask*). Pay for her when called for (most of the time), and dont complain or whine about anything. Take notice of her every move, complament (but dont suck up) her when you notice something different or she tells you about an achievment. For some reason most girls dont like loud music, loud laughing, action movies, game days, or stinky guys. Somehow find a way to incorperate those into the relationship (if one devolps) without it getting to her too much. Take showers, dress nice, brush your teeth, and adapt to her needs.

4Glory · 09-21-2005, 03:36 PM

Thanks for the advice all, I'm going to see her again tonight and I'll report back later on how things are going. I think I'm going to tell her about that Christian retreat. I can't go because I have school on the weekends (its teacher's college) but I'll still inform her so if she wants to go she can (even without me, my guess is she will appricate me thinking about her right...?)
Thanks again guys, yeah its tough, I like her a lot but I know I need to keep it cool and not make any moves.