How do I know...

Onituigekisha · 08-16-2005, 12:00 PM

How do I know if a girl likes me? I have a friend that goes to my church and I can't tell if she likes me or not. I like her, but I havent told her because I'm either afraid of what her reaction will be or I'm too nervous to tell. Can anyone give some advice in this?

DreamChaser · 08-16-2005, 12:10 PM

Heya,

You could ask her, or you could tell her how you feel. That's the only reliable way, really.

adamkaboom · 08-16-2005, 12:43 PM

I am in the same boat.......help us poor souls please!!!

Chris · 08-16-2005, 01:16 PM

You just have to ask her yourself. Don't get someone else to do it or ask her friends. You won't get a straight answer that way.

WorshipJesus · 08-16-2005, 02:30 PM

Check out this link. I think it might help you. Have you talked to your dad about it? I'm sure that he will lead you in the right direction. Talk to you Wednesday. -WJ

nitelight · 08-16-2005, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Onituigekisha

How do I know if a girl likes me? I have a friend that goes to my church and I can't tell if she likes me or not. I like her, but I havent told her because I'm either afraid of what her reaction will be or I'm too nervous to tell. Can anyone give some advice in this?

Well it depends. women like guys that are bold and it is a plus that you go to church because she can discuss God's word with you but I would wait for the right moment instead of going up to her out of the blue and ask her out. you have to let her know you are interested first

. A girl will do suttle things to tell you she likes you like do you favors or smile at you from across the room stuff like that, believe me I'm a girl I do those things. Wait for the right moment, if it is meant to be than you'll know the exact moment. Women like romance.

But be careful because if she doesn't like you the same way don't worry for God already has someone out there for you.

Ryan Akers · 08-16-2005, 02:49 PM

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Originally Posted by nitelight

Well it depends. women like guys that are bold

Not trying to be a punk, but that's not always true. I'm a friendly outgoing guy, but whenever it comes to girls, I'm not a strong, bold, guy who pursues the girl. My girlfriend was the pursuer, which is what I like, and she likes the fact that I'm not.

So I agree more with the whole deal of asking her if you want to know.

WorshipJesus · 08-16-2005, 02:50 PM

Talk to your dad first before you decide to do anything. I think this is your safest bet.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 08-16-2005, 05:46 PM

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Talk to your dad first before you decide to do anything. I think this is your safest bet.

It seems you know this guy in real life... Hence you would know his dad and whether thats a good idea.

Your best advice for actually finding out, is asking plain and simple. Anytime you get secondhand info here, its dangerous as it will alter your perceptions. Besides, you won't really get an accurate picture if you talk to others. Women can be inscrutable, and what 98% of the population thinks means SHE LIKES YOU, might just be her being nice. Or vice-versa.

adamkaboom · 08-16-2005, 08:16 PM

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Originally Posted by nitelight

Women like romance.

hmmmm....this poses a problem.

Read my sig

WorshipJesus · 08-16-2005, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

It seems you know this guy in real life... Hence you would know his dad and whether thats a good idea.

Your best advice for actually finding out, is asking plain and simple. Anytime you get secondhand info here, its dangerous as it will alter your perceptions. Besides, you won't really get an accurate picture if you talk to others. Women can be inscrutable, and what 98% of the population thinks means SHE LIKES YOU, might just be her being nice. Or vice-versa.

Ya, i do know him in real life. i don't think that going and telling the girl is such a good idea. i think it would be better if he talked to his dad for advice. this is the advice that i would give to anyone asking for advice: talk to your parents or an adult, not just the people on CGR.

Shakespeare · 08-16-2005, 08:56 PM

The age-old, mandatory questions: how old are you? And how old is she?

bobthecockroach · 08-16-2005, 09:47 PM

The simplest way is to ask her, but, in general, if she always chooses to hang out with you instead of someone else, she likes you at least a little bit.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 08-17-2005, 08:42 AM

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Originally Posted by WorshipJesus

Ya, i do know him in real life. i don't think that going and telling the girl is such a good idea. i think it would be better if he talked to his dad for advice. this is the advice that i would give to anyone asking for advice: talk to your parents or an adult, not just the people on CGR.

But as you know, that is not always the wisest thing. I am an adult, and a lot of CGR is adults. There are all sorts of people here, parents, youth pastors, and those like myself who aspire to be a senior pastor someday. Blanket advice is not usually any good whatsoever.

I hesitated to point that out on your previous post, but chances are God is not going to toss a girl in your path without you pursuing her. That we should be led by the Lord in our daily actions is a given. But in ignoring multitudes of counsel which is in the scriptures described as a way of safety seems a little foolish.

There also is a sense of being detached which lends an objectivity that one embroiled in the situation cannot see.

Rob · 08-17-2005, 09:17 AM

How to tell if a girl likes you:

1: Flirt with her friend in sight of her. If she gets jealous, she likes you. (though probably not anymore)

2: Just run up and kiss her. If she slaps you and threatens to press charges, she doesn't like you.

3: Just ask her. (most reccommended)